Post # 1
So FI and were looking at photographers last night and almost got into it (silly, I know). We have completely different tastes as far as photographic style, Im talking opposite sides of the spectrum. I like, rich, edgy, sophisticated, sexy creative photos with sweeping landscapes, edited to the extreme haha. He leans more towards the traditional, bright, posey, crisp photos with lots of close-ups of faces. He says I want us to look like we are in a magazine or Calvin Klein ad (what’s wrong with that). I say he wants us to look boring and stiff and typical; why pay 6k for photos to look typical?
I could get away with just saying that we have to go with what I like (cause ultimately he wont fight me on it) but I do want him to feel included and be mindful of his tastes as well cause it’s his wedding.
Did you and your FI have divergent tastes in photo style? How did you compromise, if at all?
Post # 3
Go with my photog, he does both 🙂 In all honesty, it may be possible to find someone you both like… is DC where you’re looking?
Post # 4
Haha I’m a pretty big photo snob, I love crisp, striking, vibrant photos that don’t look typically posed.
My partner would be happy if gramgram ran around taking pictures of people with a disposable camera.
How’s that for divergent? lol.
Post # 5
6k? My sister, who you looking at? BTW, the photog I wanted is not available next Spring 🙁 I don’t suppose you know any H-town photogs?
Post # 6
@KLP2010: you say there are people who do both? ::jumps in excitement:: I really haven’t been able to find any; Yes we are in the DC area, in all honesty, I feel like I’ve had a hard time finding photogs I really like in this area b/c I have extreme expectations I guess. E-hugs for KLP if you have any suggestions! Who is your photog?
Post # 7
i agree, do a bit of both. i’m for the “calvin klein ad” type, but if you choose a photographer good enough to do that, then surely they can do the regular pose-y style as well and do a couple shots like that. 70% klein, 30% pose-y should do it 😛
Post # 8
@missmouse29: haha, yes Im a photo snob too. being a snob is not easy on the pockets unfortunately!
@bRooklynRocks: I know I know, it’s a darn shame. But we dont care if our wedding is 8k, we still want to spend 5-6k on photos. it’s a sickness, I tell ya. But we have to do justice to all the geles people will be wearing, lol. I dont know any H-town photogs. I LOVE Kevin Jairaj, but he is based in Dallas and I dont know enough about Texas to know if that’s close to Houston or not (probably not, right? lol)
Post # 9
DH was the exact same way. We were fine picking a photographer but when we got our e-pics back he didn’t like a bunch of them because he thought we should be centred in the picture, close up, crisp colour and thats it! There were some really neat ones of us standing on a hill and he hated it because “you can’t even tell it’s us, whats the point?”. I tried to explain to him that its creative photography but he wasn’t buying it.
He was fine with our wedding pictures since there were some of what he wanted and what I wanted but he still hates the “creative, different” pictures.
Post # 10
@Sunshine23: omg, my FI said the EXACT same thing: you can’t even tell it’s us, whats the point?” and he said “you wanna be a model” I’m like, so what? we’re young, if I pay all that money for photos I better look like Naomi Campbell or somebody.
Post # 11
My FI and I are like @missmouse29 and her partner. I found what I considered to be a reasonable photographer (about $1k with pictures I love) and he says “why do we need a photographer? everyone will have cameras.”
UGH. I won’t budge, and he seems to think I’m spending a ridiculous amount of money on this. The pictures are the ONLY thing I care about. He just doesn’t care about pictures at all (although if he continues to insist on a powder blue tux, I may not care about pictures at all, either).
I’m DIYing everything. I found my invites for $13.00. We’re growing our own flowers. He’s making all the food. Our family members are making our cakes. We have a friendor for a DJ. My budget for my dress is $300. This is seriously our ONLY splurge.
Post # 12
@Aubergold: I think many guys think the exact same way! And it’s impossible to change their minds.
Post # 13
We sound in very similar pickles! I’m DIYing everything & growing our flowers as well. My Aunt said she’d make us a cake or cupcakes or whatever we decided (she’s a baker by profession), and I’m refusing to spend more than 350(with tax) on a dress.
Photography was really going to be our one big splurge, & I managed to find a half decent photographer for $800 (unlimited shooting, full day, images on disk, printing rights) — she wasn’t my first choice, but was reasonable & worked a wedding I went to this past summer & was really fun. I was willing to settle for a little less of a photog because of budget/cost etc, but my partner is just clueless, they actually said the same thing “Well, everyone is going to have cameras, why can’t we just get our pictures from them?”
Post # 14
I just Joined to give some professional photography tech support for wedding bee folks! Ask me any question you’ve got!
In your price range you will defiantly find a photographer who can accommodate both styles. I think the best way for you to find the perfect photographer is for you and your FI to collect a bunch of photos that you like (print from the web, tear from a magazine, etc.) and put them into a folder to show a potential photographer. Choose photos of all kinds, not just wedding photos! Pick photos with great color, deep Black and White, or even old family photos!
When you show them to the photographer ask how they would reproduce the photo, and be sure to get information about lighting technique. If the photographer gives you a blank stare… move on. If a photographer gives you the answer in 1/3 of a second… I’d beware. Mastering light in photography is like mastering Shakespeare, it takes a close study and years of practice.
Also, when you are checking out photographers, don’t just stick to their wedding portfolio. If they have a portrait section, spend some time checking out their technique. If they can light a portrait in many creative ways, they have a strong range of skill, that’s what you and your FI are looking for.
Anyway, hope that helps! And if you need any help with the process let me know!
Post # 15
Find a photographer who can do your style and and ask if they can do some more traditional, posed portraits with less editing. Just explain your differences in tastes.
For what you like, I recommend Keith Cephus