Post # 1
The reception space we are looking at is an art gallery/studio space has one large room that seats 81 guests and 3 connected smaller rooms that seat 18 guests each for a total of 135 which is about what we are looking at. For some reason I’m attracted to this layout instead of the typical one big room or ballroom reception venue.
My question is: would you be annoyed if you were a guest and seated in one of the smaller rooms off the main room? We are going to make one room a “kids room” and another one a “young adult room” and then a room connected to the kids room (which is also connected to the main space) a “parents of the kids room”.
I figure the only time people have to sit at their table is when they are eating and the rest of the time they can hang out wherever. There will also be a downstairs lounge area with a guest “photo shoot” with a photographer so guests will have something else to do outside of the main room – (no one will be seated downstairs for the meal- that will just be a hang out area.)
Has anyone here had a reception with a divided space or been to wedding with a venue like that? We really love the venue but I do worry some people will be annoyed by the layout…
Post # 3
I would book a venue with that arrangement.
Guests in those rooms would not be able to see what is going on at the head table.
They would have to leave their seats to see and hear speeches, toasts, bride and groom kissing etc.
Post # 4
I was at a wedding with a venue like that and we were in the other rooms. I really missed the intimacy of the affair. I was not happy! Although it only lasted through dinner and then we moved into the main room. But, it just felt like we were “an add-on” but, not forgotten. Felt wierd and most of the dinner conversation was about, what we were missing in the main room.
Post # 5
I would book a venue like that if I otherwise liked the venue! I personally would not care if I was in a smaller room off the main room. Oftentimes you only talk to/pay attention to what is going on at your table, anyway!
I haven’t been to a venue exactly like what you describe, but I did go to a wedding this year where the guests were in two adjacent rooms, and the dance floor was in a 3rd room. I was seated at the back of the 2nd room and couldn’t see the bride and groom at all, but it was fine. The B&G called people to the dance floor when they were going to cut the cake, etc.
However, I could see people getting upset if you were doing any “weddingy” things in the main room that they were going to miss out on (your entrance, any traditional dances, cake cutting, toasts, etc). If any of that will happen in the main room, at least make sure that the people in the smaller rooms are corralled on over to the main one when they occur.
Post # 6
I have been to a wedding like this, and I was sitting in the other room. I felt like I was a bit of an outcast. I missed the speeches and I had to get up and stand in a corner to see the first dance. Also, some people don’t like to dance and like to sit at their tables to watch the dancing. If you are in another room, you can’t do this. IMO I would try and find a different venue.
Post # 7
Too late to edit my response, but it should have said I would “NOT’ book such a venue.
Post # 8
Okay. Thanks for the feedback. I really want to make this space work so I think I’m going to cut down the guest list. One of the smaller rooms is more of an extension of the main space- it’s really more of a platform so the people in that room would have a full view of the B&G table (it forms an L with the main room and the B&G would be at the corner of the L). There is a small room off that room which I think I can still use for kids (I don’t think kids care about seeing the toast!) So I really just need to cut it down by 18 from 135 to 117. Then no one will be outcasted (except the kids sort of.) Better? I really love the space and I just want to be done venue shopping!
Post # 9
My cousin’s wedding was like that. It was at a bed and breakfast and some guests and the bride and groom were inside and the rest of us were outside. It was damp, rainy and cold that day. I felt like a 2nd class citizen. The dancing was outside, but we missed the cake cutting, toasts, and all that stuff. I was NOT happy.
Post # 10
To be brutally honest, I think I would be a little hurt if I was put in a separate room -why invite me at all? I know that is NOT your intention, but I can’t imagine most guests would be okay with this -the other poster said that they would all have to get up for toasts, etc., which would really stink. Plus, I don’t think kids can sit in a separate room unsupervised even if their parents are in an adjoining rooom.
Post # 11
i wouldn’t like it at all. a kid’s room is a good idea if they’re a little older — young kids tend to be scared to leave their parents so they probably wouldn’t go in the room at all. you should have an adult in there to supervise too.
Post # 12
I’ve scene so many people ignore the B&G first dance, cake cutting…even the bouquet toss can be ignored by some guest. If you like the space, go for it.
Post # 13
I dont think that I finished my thought. I was just illustrating that at weddings, many of the guests ignore the hosts…so those guests shouldn’t mind being in another room.
Post # 14
@lessthan3: Enough people would decline that you’d probably be ok without cutting the guest list. Expect about 25% to decline – more if the majority are from out of town!