Dividing up the guest list, advice?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do I divide up the guest list?
    Your parents get more invites because they're paying more, FI's family can deal : (4 votes)
    44 %
    Any contribution buys influence, so paying for the rehearsal dinner gets FI's parents extra guests : (1 votes)
    11 %
    They should be equal, no second class citizens at your wedding : (2 votes)
    22 %
    Elope before it's too late (kidding!) : (2 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Traditionally, a bride’s family pays for the wedding,(which is what is happening in your case), and since your parents are technically throwing you and your FI the wedding-they dictate the amount of people you and your FI and your FI’s family can invite. They set the number and your in-laws can invite that many people. I don’t see anything wrong with this at all. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    6204 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    @jennmariee:  “Thank you for sending us that list! Unfortunately, we are unable to fit the 20 people we don’t know into our current budget. The others are good to go, though!”

    Just leave it at that. If they want to add them, they can pay for them.

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