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My first thought is Christmas at your parents' and Thanksgiving at his. You have to make a concession somewhere and it seems that Christmas is more important to your family.
Also, maybe you could eventually ask your parents to join you at your in-laws if they all get along.
I'm an only child also, so I understand where you are coming from. I think what you and your parents have to do is to learn to share and compromise. They can't expect to have you every holiday for the rest of their lives. And as time goes on you and your husband will have a family of you own and create new traditions. I think think a fair things to do is alternate, or to celebrate the holiday a little before or after the actual day. FI's mom always has Thanksgiving the weekend before because she knows the real day is hectic for all her kids with their own family's and in-laws and would rather celebrate it the weekend before and have everyone there together. Good luck!
M and I alternate holidays, this year Thanksgiving here (where his family is) and Christmas we go home (where mine is) EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEe!!!!!!!!! But next year we'll be alternating it.
I agree with the others, just because his mother has other kids around doesn't mean that she doesn't want to see her son too. Mother's love when they get to have their whole family there, especially for the holidays. it's only fair to alternate places, and if you want to celebrate with your family it doesn't always have to be on the actual day.
I also agree - but maybe your parents would appreciate being given a choice (as long as FI is ok with it too)
I would come up with a few "schedules" and present them to your parents. Letting them choose may help soften their distaste. Especially if you present it in the way that we WILL be doing one of these schedules, but we'd like your input.
I'm an encore and split holidays w/ my X. Odd years:The kids are with him for Thanksgiving and with us for Chistmas. Even years are the flip. On the years that the kids are with the X for Christmas, we started a "Pajama Christmas" for the day i get them back or the day after. My parents leave up their tree, we cook, we lay around in our Pajamas and have Christmas all over again. It's a wonderful day and my children no longer feel like they are missing out. You might be able to adapt this plan or something like it - with either family.
For FI's family, we split the holidays - for Thanksgiving this year we are eating with my family and then going to his family's.
Why don't you do christmas early with your parents so that you can celebrate with both families? That's what we do, and it works well. We usually fly out on christmas morning to colorado to visit his family, after already spending time with my family. Not sure about thanksgiving though, maybe alternate each year?
Thanks ladies! I do like the suggestion of having their input on schedules and celebrating on alternate days. You are right it's about the moments not the exact date the holiday falls on.
@Crebre80: that is excatly what we were going to do, alternate holidays each year. Last year we had Thanksgiving at his & Christmas at mine, so this year we were going to alternate, but FI asked me what I would like to do, and I prefer to have Christmas at my house, so yeah! We're doing Christmas at my parents again this year!
(Husband isn't close with his family & they are bumps on a log so Christmas with them would be a downer:)
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I am an only child, and have a very small family just me and my parents. We are from another country and have Christmas's that are obeservant of several tradtions including specific ethnic meals and going to church.
My parents live one mile from me and the FI. FI's family lives on the other coast, and we see them a few times a year. He has a huge family so it would be very expensive for them to fly to California.
My parents like to observe Christmas their way which is very formal and ritualized while my in laws have a very casual affair. My parents are really not to keen on spending Christmas in the manner, and they also love Thanksgiving at their house. I am not sure what to do, because I feel really bad leaving my parents alone on the holidays. My parents have us all year since we live so close, but my mom's arguement is that the in laws have 4 kids while my mother has just me. I dread the holidays! Any advice?