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Divorce on Weddingbee

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
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    One2-Three4    June 22, 2001  

    I was just reading Ms. Candy Corn's new post about moving on from her divorce.

    Here's something to chew on: there are just under 200 Bees with profiles on here (Mrs & Miss) So by the end of, say, April (because you can officially be a BEE 8 months out from your wedding) "technically" 80 of those 200 bees are at risk of divorce.

    I know it's all very non-statistical and there are a million side-factors and the only bees on here have been around since 2006 only, but it got me thinking...

    Just wondering if any other "board bees" or "blogging bees" have gotten divorces since their beginning on weddingbee - since supposedly the divorce rate in North America is 40%

     
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    bRooklynRocks      

    Ouch. Haven't read it. Will come back and let you know.

     
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    caitlanc    September 12, 2009   Western Slope of Colorado

    I've wondered that as well.  I'm fairly certain there have been but can't think of who else off the top of my head.

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    I actually wondered about this as well. Just because I saw Ms Candy Corns post and then I looked up bast bloggers - there are 1 or 2 that called off their wedding or got a divorce (I believe) so I was curious about all the rest.

     
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    One2-Three4    June 22, 2001  

    I know that Rainbow decided not to get married (still with her SO to my understanding), Fondue called off hers, and Snapdragon as well.

    Candy Corn was the first divorce I'd heard about...

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    @One2-Three4: actually rainbow just said they are not planning a wedding but they are still planning to get married - she just didnt want to deal with the drama of a wedding

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    Miss Sanddollar (I think) talked about how this is her 2nd wedding and she was actually a "Real Wedding" bride for her first wedding a few years ago. Also Mrs. Nachos was an encore. So I guess I don't know about any blogged marriages failing... but I do think that the topic has been discussed by a few. 

     
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    carmel bride    September 18, 2010   northern california

    I'm not sure the 40% statistic applies to the first year or 2 or 3....I'm not sure, but I would have thought it would be lower for newlyweds these days?

     
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    Edina    June 2010  

    Did this thread disappear for a while or am I crazy?

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Hmm, I'm sure that a lot of Bees feel ashamed that their relationship ended in divorce.  We probably don't hear about board bees who get divorces since most of them seem to disappear after their wedding.  I'm glad that Candy Corn was brave enough to be honest about something that does happen, even though people on Weddingbee don't really talk about it much.

     
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    coffeekitty    November 2010  

    My fiance is divorced. He was married before I met him and in the process of divorcing when we started dating. I wonder if that puts me at a higher or lower risk, lol!

    It was a short, but I gather passionate, marriage that ended after they were unhappy together for some time and tried to work things out through therapy, but it just wasn't working. My fiance is a difficult, emotional (but lovely) person and it sounds as if the exwife was another one of the same with a healthy dose of immaturity and depression mixed in and the combination was endless fighting.

    I have no doubt in my mind that we'll stick it out through a lot of bad times and good times. I have no delusion that spending my life with him will all be easy, but I know I am a better person with his support and he with mine.

    I don't think people like to talk about their divorces because it's probably depressing, but we are all human. We make mistakes and sometimes we change. When choosing a partner, it's important to remember those 2 things and be prepared for what may come. I plan to love and support him no matter who he becomes or what errors he makes (as long as he continues to put our best interests as a team first and tries his hardest to be a good partner) and it's something we've talked about.

     

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