Divorced Bees: Did you feel sad when your ex-husband remarried?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MissMiaMarch:  i am not even sure if my exhusbands are remarried.  i know that my last exbf was engaged but broke up before getting married.  regardless, i would not really care.  i only focus on my happiness.

Post # 4
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissMiaMarch:  I didn’t, but then again my relationship with my ex was quite different than yours. I was glad he was remarried because it meant a better situation for my young children when they were with their Dad. Instead of a parade of different women at the breakfast table, there was one woman in his life that they could actually get to know.


Post # 5
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissMiaMarch:  I haven’t divorced but my best friend has. She handled a divorce as well as anyone I’ve ever seen: kicked him out immediately when he cheated, got busy socially to take her mind off him, didn’t date immediately but did after a couple of years. etc. – and was generally really happy with post-first-marriage life.

And yet, when she heard her ex had remarried, she still was quite stunned and taken aback. Despite having 100% moved on, the thought of her ex remarrying was a bit of a blow, for reasons she couldn’t quite explain.

So ((hugs)), I think it’s quite normal.

Post # 7
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MissMiaMarch:  I havent gone through this but I just wanted to say that it sounds completely normal.. I can’t imagine shrugging it off like no big deal, I mean at one point you were married to the man! 

Post # 9
863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yes I felt sad.  For his new wife.  

For myself, I felt a renewed sense of relief that I no longer had to deal or put up with him!

Post # 10
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was glad to be rid of him. But he was engaged to the girl he cheated on me with 2 weeks after our divorced was finalized, and they got married about 6 months later. They are still married (as far as I know), but not very happily from what I’ve heard.

Post # 11
683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I surely wasn’t when my ex remarried. He married the bitch lady he cheated on me with within six months of our divorce being final. She was married too, so as soon as the ink on her divorce papers was dry they got married. Oh, fun fact: we all worked at the same place. I hope he’s happy with 5 or 6 kids that he said he never wanted (1 of them is his that I know of). I’m 95% sure she was pregnant when they got married, so he got her KU while she was still married to the other guy. Gem of a guy huh?! I haven’t spoken to him in the 10 years we’ve been apart. Good-fucking-riddance.

Considering you have a normal friendly relationship with the man and a child together, I don’t think it’s all that weird to have those feelings.. I just can’t relate since I didn’t experience a good divorce!

Post # 12
1287 posts
Bumble bee

My ex re-married within 6  months of our divorce being final. met – moved in – engaged – married.  All within 6 months. All together now:   “REBOUND”.

My feelings:  Woo Hoo!  He leaves me alone. More so after he found out I got engaged.  As long as his wife stays out of my business and doesn’t overstep her step parenting boundaries with  me (she has her own 3 kids and her own x and his wife to deal with)…then we are cool.


@Krispi:  When I see my ex, he looks MISERABLE!  He looks so unhappy LOL!!  I just laugh. I find it hilarious.  Seriously.  I know he was stressed out with our 2 kids.  And when we were around his nieces/nephew or friends kids, even more stressed out and couldn’t handle the situation….and his wife has 3 kids. So that makes 7 people, plus 2 dogs all under one roof, the man is going nuts.  

Post # 13
6665 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was a little sad when my ex remarried.  Although I agree with PP that is was a good thing as far as having one woman being a constant presence rather than a differnt woman every month around our child.  And his new wife is fine- never had a problem with her.

Post # 14
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MissMiaMarch:  I was with my ex-FI for nearly a decade. We weren’t legally married but close enough. He did get married and has kid(s) now. To answer your question, I don’t care at all. If I did, I’d be worried I wasn’t over it yet. I think a true test of being over someone is not caring if they are with someone else.

Post # 15
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have never been married before, but I did date someone for 5 years and went through a very, very rough break-up. When he recently started dating someone seriously, I felt a little weird. I don’t know if sad is the right word, but definitely…. nostalgic. I don’t think it’s anything to worry about. When you’re really, really serious with someone, you imagine a future with them. You imagine your lives together and what the future will hold for you two. When that future breaks apart, and that person’s future is with someone else, I think it’s totally normal to have feelings of grief – even if you’re in love with your FI.

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