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@scadadle15: Having some super drama from my FI's side of the family, which is divorce-riddled. Biological mother and stepdad not on speaking terms with us because we are simply talking to his biological father. Get over it, people! I think some people just prefer misery.
I'm just dreading my wedding when it comes to my family, and I'm not even engaged yet. My parents HATE each other so much that when they see each other it turns into fighting words and daggers. I really don't know whatever posessed the two to get married in the first place. They divorced when I was 7, which was 20 years ago!!! My plan is to put both on opposite ends of the room and pictures. Their just gonna have to grow up, grin and bear it.
I can totally relate. While my parents are still together, my FI has three separate sets of parents, all now with new partners. He has his mum, his dad, and his stepdad who basically raised him but is now no longer married to his mum.
The seating arrangements are going to be tough...
@scadadle15: Oh, that's so annoying! Do they really have to have separate pictures? They couldn't just stand together and smile for one picture (or more) for the sake of a "married couple with bride's parents," "married couple with grooms parents," etc.?
Both of our families are divorced too and my Dad and step-mom have been married since I was really young so we do celebrate things with her family too. It is definately overwhelming at times. Hopefully everyone can be adults and suck it up when they have to be around each other:)
@joy2011: It's not just because they don't want to take a picture together its because they want separate photos to display in their own homes without the other parent ya know? I understand why they would want this. It just makes the list so long!
Then when it comes to seating - we're considering forgoing the "bride's side" and groom's side" and putting the moms on one side of the aisle and the dads on the other side. I don't want either parents to have to sit in a second row because of this.
Ugh.. my sister got married before my parents divorced so she didn't have to deal with any of this. I'm so jealous!
@scadadle15: In that case, I'd totally make up a 'photo itinerary' and send it to them early (and have printed copies on the day of).
Literally lay it out photo by photo (Bride/MOB/SD, Bride MOB/FOB, Bride, FOB/SM, everyone Bride's fam, then the gigantic Bride/Groom/all fam, and weed out until it's the Groom/MOG/SD, etc, etc). Tell them what time to be there, tell them to follow along on the sheet, and things should hopefully flow smoothly.
If you plot it all out ahead of time, there won't be much day of random family member: 'Oh, we need one with X! Where's X? Oh, they're in the bathroom? We'll just wait.' Tell them that there's limited time and that things need to run smoothly. This will also help you get all grandparent or child photos done at one time, so they don't need to keep coming back up and then sitting down.
@scadadle15: We still had parents sit in the same row with their significant others and then for tables each parent hosted their own with the grandparents and special guests they would want to sit with them.
@NDBee: That's what prompted this thread. I've been working on "the list!" It will definately help to make things run smoothly the day of.
@MrsMeNow: That's what we plan to do for the reception. We're still debating the ceremony seating though. It's a small garden so the front row will only be 4-6 chairs on each side of the aise so the divorced parents will sit directly next to each other if we don't separate them.
My mom left my dad the week after I got engaged. For the first 6 months they were both bitter, but could be in a room together. Now my dad can't handle being around her at all. It frustrates me because I don't know how they will be at the wedding. My sister is only 13, and before all of this I would have put all my siblings at a table with my parents. Now they probably have to be at separate tables and I dont know what to do with my siblings. I plan on taking pictures with both of them whether they like it or not, but I have no idea how to handle the seating thing. At this rate, it is impossible to tell whether the divorce will be finalized by the time I get married. To complicate things more, I know my dad is dating already.
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I bees.. I just need to vent. Both my parents and my fiancee's parents are divorced which creates four separate family groupings. I had anticipated some challenges with this early on when it came to seating the ceremony and reception and the invitation wording etc.. but I did not consider photography!
Because of all the different groupings, our formal photo list is about double what it would be for a typical married parents wedding.
I am getting overwhelmed with dealing with all this and keeping each side of the family happy.
Can anyone relate?