(Closed) Divorced parents, mom has her maiden name (but is remarried)

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should our last names be on the invite to avoid confusion? (please read post)
    Yes, both bride and groom's last names should be on there : (5 votes)
    56 %
    Yes, just bride's last name should be on there to avoid confusion : (0 votes)
    No, first and middle names are fine : (4 votes)
    44 %
    other (please explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it should be both or neither – Sarah Jane Smith to Ian Lawrence James Green, or Sarah Jane to Ian Lawrence James.

    I would probably include both if it’s going to be a big wedding where people on the groom’s side might not know you. If everyone already knows you, it doesn’t matter.

    Also, you might not care at all, but traditionally if parents are divorced, they’re on different lines. i.e.

    Mr. Bob Smith and

    Ms. Jane Doe

    request the honor blah blah

    IMO this is not important, but I thought I’d mention it just in case.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    This may be just a preference, but I would put your FI’s mom’s first name as well, particularly because your mom’s first name will be on the invitation (Mr. and Mrs. James and Susan Green).

    Post # 8
    Member
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I think it’s fine how you have it now. Typically you don’t put the bride’s last name… because you are saying that her last name will eventually be his last name. However, since your parents both have last names, they can’t really tell which last name is yours at this point. I still think it will be fine to leave it the way it is. But if you do put your last name it won’t be a big deal either.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    @MapleBecky: You keep saying “our last names” so that is confusing me. Do you mean your last name, or yours and your FI’s? I don’t think you should leave out your FI’s last name. And as far as your name goes, it’s ok to leave it out or put it in IMO.

    Not really sure about if father or mother goes first in your situation. But it looks fine how it is.

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