Post # 1
So, its still super far away, but I was pondering seating arrangements today, and realized that my mum will be a huge problem to seat at the reception (I think I’ll just shove my parents on different pews at the church and solve that problem though.)
She thinks that I think the world of her. I dont technically really like her although I do love her as my mother. (We have a rather difficult relationship…)
She is not on speaking terms with most of my dad’s family, she has no family of her own on this continent, and also not really any friends. I dont want to seat her with my SO’s parents because that would just make them miserable. Basically I dont want her near me, my dad’s family, or my SO’s family. But if she isnt sitting right next to me… she will be sad/mad, or both.
I was thinking bridesmaids/groomsmen at the head table, and then seperate tables all equally close to the head table for my dad and his gf and parents and whatnot, similarly for SO’s parents and family, but then that leaves me with a grand total of no-one to seat with my mum.
Does anyone have any good ideas?
Post # 3
Are there any friends of yours that know your mom but aren’t in the wedding party? Or anyone friends parents her age she can sit with? Family friends? Just explain to her that you are sitting witht he wedding party and ask who she would feel comfortable sitting with.
Post # 4
What about the spouses of the wedding party? You could put the photographer with her or family friends?
Post # 5
I’m in the same boat. Difficult relationship w/my mom who has remarried to the guy she cheated on my dad with. I dunno what to do with her either. Reception we’re not doing a seating chart so I guess she can figure it out, lol. Also, don’t you usually put your parents in the first row…just put them at opposite ends?
Post # 6
My FI and I have a similar issue. His parents divorced and his mom remarried quickly after. This was many years ago so my FI really grew up with his step-father and not so much his father. But when FI moved from florida to NY three years ago he lived with his father and rebuilt alot of that relationship. Since his father is coming without a date and his sister, FIs aunt is coming without her husband, medical reasons. I plan to sit them together and his mom and step-dad at another table.
Post # 7
I’m having trouble with my parents as well. My dad cheated on my mom and left 2 years ago, and I hate my mom’s new boyfriend. I have no idea what to do with them at the ceremony or the reception 🙁 I think they could be civil to each other if they sat in the same pew, I just don’t want their significant others anywhere near the wedding.
Post # 8
If I don’t assign seating then she will probably seat herself right next to my dad and his girlfriend and proceed to make them miserable the entire time. The problem with her is her lack of tact and overabundance of chatter and unsolicited advice that makes it unfortunate for anyone sitting next to her. She will have one of her friends on one side of her, (one on each if I can work it that way).
Biggest problem is giving her her “due” honor (in terms of where she is sitting) and yet keeping her away from anyone I want to be happy…