(Closed) “Divorcing” a Friend

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Easy – just stop responding to her IM’s.  If she calls, make it short.  If she emails, keep it short.  Just be unavailable.

Post # 4
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2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

For starters, diable your Facbook chat. And any other chat programs that she uses. It’s much easier to avoid someone when they can’t IM you any time they want.

She sounds like a real prize, btw. Undecided Good riddance!

Post # 5
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6664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

By not responding to her. Just stop writing back, it’s that simple. Then a couple days later send her a quick: “Sorry I missed you, I’ve been so busy! Hope all is well!” And don’t respond to anythign you get after that.

That way, the next time you run into her it will be amicable since there was no actual breakup, but you can be very vauge and flighty and excuse yourself quickly.

Post # 7
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14784 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am always leaving my FB open in a window and just forget it is there.   Ignore the IM’s and just tell her you left the page open or computer on and forgot about it.

Post # 8
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1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would just ignore her all together and then send her a christmas card around the holidays.

Post # 9
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow she seems like someone you def. don’t even want a casual friendship with, but I understand if you will be seeing her that you don’t want it to be awkward. I’d say just be short or say you have to go on AIM. She should get the picture soon enough.

Post # 10
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18 posts
Newbee

I agree that that best thing to do is ignore her. I had to take that approach with someone I’ve known most of my life, and it worked. Some people just don’t get when you don’t want to talk to them, or when they’re being rude/annoying/etc! In my experience, by ignoring the IM’s and calls and blaming it on not being near the computer or phone, the person turned their attention to some other poor soul and laid off me. Do be careful of opening up any lines of communication again though. I made that mistake and it was like a flood gate opened. On the rare occasion I see this person (at weddings or out in our hometown) I’m civil but always keep it short before running off to talk to someone else or use the bathroom or get a drink. Good luck!

Post # 11
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131 posts
Blushing bee

This girl sounds crazy!  It is almost laughable that she would have the guts to say the things she does.  She may come from money, but she has no class!

Post # 12
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Really she talks about her finances? The FI and I never talk about our finances, not even with our families. That is OUR business, not theres. What a twit. Just quit talking to her and change your number if she has it!

Post # 13
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2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I had a “friend” who i decided to drop contact with. She is really selfish and it was just really draining to be in a friendship with someone who asks you to fly to france for a wedding and doesnt even send you a card, then invites you to a baby shower. I tried to just ignore her but she kept asking our mutual friend why I wasnt on g chat anymore, so for the sake of our mutual friend, I sent her an email saying I was hurt and that I hoped she had a nice visit but I had no intrest in seeing her. She emailed back once but seems to have gotten the message now, and has stopped bugging our mutual friend about it.

Post # 15
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ignore her. Simple. Disable chat and don’t let yourself read her messages for a few months, or years. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ughhh, Toxix friendship for sure. Ya just ignore her IM’s and then just flippantly say you’ve been so busy. If she thinks less of you, honestly, who the hell cares?!

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