Post # 1
I have a friend who is divorcing her husband after less than three months of marriage (married in July). We warned her it was too fast but she felt he was the one. They dated and were married within less than a year. She JUST sent out her thank you cards.
She has asked me what she should do with the gifts? With the remaining thank you cards? With the photos? I have no idea.
So I ask you married bees what would you do if you were divorcing shortly after marriage? What would you say to people? How would you take care of the loose ends?
Post # 3
Return the money and any gift that is unopened.
Post # 4
I would return it too. My Darling Husband and I have a mutual friend and they also got divorced with in 6 months. I dont get it.
Post # 5
I think you have to return it – that’s too soon to keep things. But it’d be awkward with things like small appliances – I got married in July as well and my coffee maker and microwave are well used.
Post # 7
Unopened and uncashed checks, return
Those that are opened or cashed, I would write another card explaining in a generic way that the marriage was short lived and she would like to return the gift, however it has been used/cashed would they still like them back?
As a friend I wouldnt take anything back, but I would like the though behind the question. I especially would not want money that has been spent or an item that has been used.
I expect she would find most people tell her to keep it.
Post # 8
Definitely return the gifts.
Post # 9
I had a feeling this was the acceptable action but it is hard thing to tell someone. If she asks me again I will pass along the good advice.
Post # 10
It certainly puts her in an “uncomfortable situation”… and it isn’t going to get any easier any time soon…
As ThreeMeers: has posted, the correct procedure Etiquette wise is to contact those who gave her a gift (no matter what it was… including MONEY… whether it came as Cash, Cheque or Gift-Certificate) and offer to return it be it used or un-used. Then it is up to the gift-giver in how they choose to procede.