(Closed) DIY Brides – would you do this yourself or no?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Would you save the money and DIY
    Save the money - the issues are well worth the $5500 : (19 votes)
    49 %
    Save the headache - the $5500 will be money well spent : (5 votes)
    13 %
    Look into another option that suits your budget without the headache. : (15 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
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    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I did EVERYTHING for my wedding. Example?

     

    I sewed all my napkins, purchased all my own linens, sewed all my overlays, sewed all 10 BM dresses, sewed all 3 flower girl dresses, ordered bulk flowers online and arranged all my bouquets and centerpieces. Set up my entire reception, made my invites, purchased everything from chargers/chairs/ glassware and rented them out before hand to pay them off and beat rental prices. And probably so many other little things like (Cake topper, signature drink cards, table seating..etc) … I spent at least 15 hours a week for 9 months working on my wedding. It was a huge headache (turned out beautiful) but was extremely stressful.

    I would take it all back and elope! Not worth the headache lol 🙂 

     

    We pulled off a $85k wedding for under $50k just to reference budget. (not including rings/honeymoon) 

    Post # 4
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    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted to look into other locations. If youre on a budget, $5500 is a sizable chunk of money (more than my entire budget!) We are getting married in a state park that has a beautiful location, and an indoor pavilion that is rustic and beautiful if the weather does not cooperate. Also, the hike up to your friend’s place may be a burden on older guests, pregnant guests or those with health issues.

    Post # 5
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    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think the venue is beautiful but I’d never want to make my guests hike anywhere, whether you warn them or not.  It seems like a bigger headache than it’s worth when there’s a similar venue nearby!

    Post # 6
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fascinating post by Kinneybride. 

    It’s making me second guess my vote, which is to save the money and have your reception at the “needs work” site you describe. 

    I think you won’t mind doing the work, and will be so proud on the day-of. If you spend the $5500, you may not be satisfied with how things turn out, as you could be thinking, “this is fine, but I could have DIY’d this better, and for way less…”

    Just my $0.02

    Post # 7
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    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @queencharlotte04:  I voted for the amazing overlook IF you have help. Maybe you can ask some family/friends to help in lue of a gift. If you pull it off I cant wait for photos. Also maybe the friends will help if they understand they could rent it out in the future anf start making money

    Post # 8
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    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    If something happens in the 2 weeks before the wedding and you are not able to do this manual labor yourself, will you have money set aside to pay someone else to do it? My friend broke her foot 4 weeks before her wedding. My Grandfather slipped into terminal decline 10 days before the wedding, and died with 6 days to go. I spent the last 10 days holding night time vigil at his bedside, coordinating funeral plans in 2 states, etc. . Life gets in the way of the very best laid plans. So please make sure that, if you choose the DIY route, you have a very good back-up plan.

    Post # 11
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    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Here is some of my budget breakdown- however this was posted 6 months before my wedding- so we ended up spending a little more and it isnt 100% accurate (a lot of changes made within the final couple months before) 

     

    Here it is… my DIY Budget vs. Savings 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper

    One thing you have absolutely no control over is the weather, so that in itself would be my bottom line/deterrent. If there’s no contingency plan should you have record heat or monsoon type weather or even a sudden coldfront, what will your backup plan be? Outdoor events are always at the mercy of the weather. After all that work to make it as decent as you can, you may end up having to move it anyway. The stress would make me have Plans A,B and C.

    Have you checked other areas for other options? I think partial DIY is a TON of work anyway, and you’re throwing in landscaping/cleanup on top of everything else. I’d rather enjoy the day than be too exhausted to enjoy the fruits of my labor. (We had 12 people do the day of prep at the venue, and that wasn’t even enough people for all that had to be done).

    Post # 13
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    1545 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i voted to go for the DIY – save yourself the money. But I might be prejudice because thats exactly what i’m doing – except i’m not fixing up the landscape and it was a 2500 dollar difference. But for me – i’m the type of person who panics more about the money then about the work. I was freaking out about how i had no money and i had to come up with all this money for this venue and yada yada – then somehow i found this other venue that needed a little more decorating for 2500 LESS – sign me up!  And all of a sudden I felt a HUGE weight lift off my shoulders. The work i’m not worried about – the money i was. Even with the extra expenses i’ll still end up saving atleast 1000 – 1500 bucks.

    It depends HOW much the work is going to cost and what type of person you are – Do you have the extra money anyway so to spend the extra for the peace of mind isnt a big deal? Or are you on a budget and the type of person who worries about money a lot so “peace of mind” would mean spending less money?

     

    Post # 14
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    You’d probably spend a hefty chunk of money just trying to DIY that place. Compare that to what you’d spend renting the expensive one, especially if the rental fee includes a lot of things that will save you time and heartache. 

    Paying for cars to drive people up, landscaping, etc – that all will be expensive! It might be worth it to just pay a little more for the place already done.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @kinneybride:  I would LOVE to hear more about your wedding.

    OP, this comes down to an issue of what you value more–your money or your time. If everyone coming can reasonably be expected to make the hike, or else not freak out on the SUV ride over rough terrain, I say go for it–as long as you really do have the time, and that time won’t put strain on your career, your friendships or your relationship with FI.

    For me it would be worth it. $5500 for nothing included is a bit ridiculous IMO.

    Post # 16
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    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @queencharlotte04:  If I could vote for the pictured venue again I would. In fact you can tell your friends that if they want to buy a tent, you’ll put the money you would have paid for a rental into it.

    Every wedding is sooooo cookie cutter been done before on here. Whenever I see something fresh I love it sooo much more. It is one day, make it unforgettable!

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