Post # 1
So! My Fiance and I are living in one state (we moved away for work) and we are here without our families. His entire family is from one state, mine from another, and we chose to have the wedding at a half way point between the two families this way we can make everyone happy. It is a very confusing situation to say the least.
I have always wanted to go the DIY route for centerpieces and such however, the logistics of that do not work in our favor. Every little thing is going to get confusing such as consultations, food tastings, planning showers and etc.
I am currently exploring the idea of either doing my own centerpieces and decor, having a florsit provide it, or using a lady I found who does awesome affordable tablescapes that include everything such as vases, flowers and petals, gems candles and extra votives, mirror for the table. If I went that route I would have the peace of mind in knowing it’s taken care of and I don’t have to worry about shipping my items there or to family and there relying on family to make them and trasport it the venue.
Do you think I would miss out on the experience if I had someone do it for me? I know a lot of brides do that but Im just not sure what the better choice is.
Opinions please 🙂
Post # 3
I’m dealing with this exact issue right now, with the added “bonus” of the two states being a plane ride away. While I think the tablescape idea you found sounds great, I think you can still do DIY if that’s what you really want to do. In my situation, this has involved some strategic planning to ensure everything that needs to be put on a table by someone other than me is done in time to be in my suitcase on the rare occasions I went home between engagement and wedding. My mom will be helping put some of it together (gluing paper flowers onto branches and sticking them in vases, in my case, with me providing the flowers and vases), and then she will be passing these things off to our caterer, who is also the one setting up tables. As long as she gets everything 2 weeks ahead, she will have her team set up centerpieces/etc for us.
Short version: with careful planning, you can DIY. However, I don’t think you’d miss out on an experience or something like that if you went with the tablescape vendor unless DIY is your thing in normal, non-wedding life, but that’s just my opinion 🙂
Post # 4
I planned my wedding from 2 states away. We did have the benefit of having the wedding at his parents house though. But knowing we wouldn’t be able to take everything with us in one trip we we’re very considerate of what we had to do He took 2 trips down before the wedding and dropped things we were using off. If that isn’t possible, since you are meeting halfway, if you have people traveling from your area, could they take some of the stuff you make with them, since you likely wouldn’t have enugh room in just one vehicle? If that is not possible, I’d say no go on most DIY. We did travel to the site 4 days before and I did DIY centerpieces, bouquets, boutineres, guest book, road signs (so out of towners would know where to go) string ball hanging decorations, and the 3 cakes for our wedding cake. So you can go early and DIY. I didn’t find it stressful since it gave my anxious mind something to focus on so that i wasn’t freaking out the 4 days before hand. Just make sure, no DIY after you get your nails done! lol.
Post # 5
I did DIY, venue was 3 hour drive for us. It wasn’t easy, a lot of coordinating, and I ordered a lot of the stuff just to go straight there. We had to get it all done day of, so I was there at 9:30 am on my wedding day with my BMs doing manual labor, lol. Not ideal.
With the amazing help of friends and family it all worked out perfectly and looked gorgeous, but I might not have minded feeling less “pride of ownership” and having less stuff to do in the weeks/days leading up the wedding. You can definitely do it, just be aware of what you’re getting yourself (and your guests) into.
If you do it, I also highly recommend a gel manicure and not-too-long nails.