Post # 1
Is anyone else out there an extreme perfectionist when it comes to their DIY stuff? I am educated and employed as a graphic designer, so I am doing all my own stationary- from save the dates which are set to go out, to invitations, enclosures, programs, etc. When people hear that I’m going to do this all myself, (my bridal party, future MIL, etc.) all offer to help. I know some of it is probably just a nice offer, but I am far too anal to let anyone touch them. I’ve made lots of mock-ups and test versions and there’s going to be lots of cutting with an X-acto and glueing (invitation to mat to cardstock) and layering and bow-tying and i just see myself slapping hands away and saying no, not like that!I feel like not only is this a reflection of my personal ability, but it’s my professional ability too, you know?
…I don’t have to let them help, right? It’s a nice offer, but I can handle it. I’m fairly crafty, so assmbling everything isn’t that daunting of a task. Just give me a good table and chair in front of Grey’s Anatomy re-runs on netflix and I’ll be good. If I were a bridesmaid and the bride told me no, don’t worry about it, I can take care of this, I’d be relieved!
Post # 3
You sound just like me. Im currently DIYing all of our 300 invitations. I’m an accountant… and a perfectionist. I cant give up the control!!!
Post # 4
@MLDoddie: LOL! ok good. are people OK with you not accepting help? I don’t feel like anyone is as invested in it as you are when it’s for your own wedding. you know?
Post # 5
I’m a perfectionist too, and I keep thinking up other ideas to cause me more work.. like the DIY envelope liners I just decided to do the other day. People have offered to help but it would be more work to explain what I want and to patrol them, and this way I can do trial and error til I get it right. I love my DIY projects and they keep me busy!
Post # 6
Me, too. I’ve had so many people offer help, and I just…don’t need it. I started on my projects early enough that I have time to do it all myself, but I am really not looking forward to the reception set up where I’ll be fixing everything that anyone else does, haha.
I basically just turn on Netflix and go to town.
Post # 7
Are we all related?! This is me 100%- I don’t even like people helping me at work. I’m so anal & everything has to be just perfect that I have found it takes more time to explain, show, review & correct than it does to just do it myself. That & I get really frustrated when people aren’t doing what I ask them to correctly when I told them the right way to do it. I really do think it’s for everyone’s sanity that I’m not asking for help with my DIY’s- i’d be the world’s biggest bridezilla bitch in oh about 5 seconds….
@vorpalette: and ya, I’ve been avoiding even thinking about the setup!! I’ll probably go all crazy with it & draw diagrams with detailed instructions & assign tasks…
Post # 8
LOL! I’m glad we’re all not crazy… or at least, we’re crazy together. I don’t like help at work etiher! Being in graphic design, I handle my clients in a particular way, I know what they like, what they expect, and er-ma-gawd you’re not doing it right. Definitely takes way longer to explain, show, and then correct because you didn’t do it the way I told you to.
There would definitely be hand-slapping involved.
As for the set up, etc, I’m not particularly anal- just things related to graphic design that are a reflection of what I do. I’m also trying to be conscientous of the fact that I have 7 bridesmaids and only one of them is married already, so there’s a pretty decent chance I have some bridesmaid duty coming down the line at me. Payback can be a bitch!
Did anyone have a problem with their offers of help being turned down? Anyone have a bridal party that felt jilted that they didn’t get to tie tiny ribbons around bagiges of jordan almonds? (Ick, I hate those. We’re just doing a charity donation in honor of our guests.)
Post # 9
I’m also a graphic designer and nobody is getting anywhere near my invitation suite. Anything else but not the paper.
Post # 11
@BeckyS0: I’m probably going to set up a mockup on my dining table and take a picture. Every table will be different, but that’s a good place to start, and then I can go back and adjust things if I need to. You know, provided that I can get into the venue the night before. If not, cue freakout.
Post # 12
I’m a crazy planner & DIYer. I LOVE everything to be perfect, and I find it extremely hard to let others help! Sometimes, I feel that if I don’t do it myself, it won’t be done as good as it can be.
Post # 13
While I am also crazy about people putting things together, I let people who wanted to help, help with things that you couldn’t really screw up. For instance, my mom sat with the corner rounder and rounded all the corners on my invites. It’s pretty hard to screw that up. But she wanted to help and didn’t mind doing it, so it saved me about 15 minutes of work! Maybe there is something that you can let people do that isn’t really easy to screw up.
Post # 14
@ZChick17: We could be twins. I, too, am a graphic designer and am BEYOND perfectionist/anal with everything I do. I have done invitations/save the dates for a handful of friends and I couldn’t even let them help with those because it bothered me too much when it wasn’t PERFECT. I’m scared to think about how long it’s going to take me to do my own 200 invitations.
And to answer your question, no, you do not need to let them help. Chances are they know you well enough to know you need them to be perfect. But hey, having them there to chit chat and have a glass of wine with while you’re doing them never hurts. 🙂
Post # 15
I am a huuuuuge perfectionist. I have no let anyone help me except my FI.
I might or might not have yelled at him and had to show him how I want things done like 3 times.
We were making coffee filter flowers and he was helping me cut the filters… and he did it wrong again, and again and again….
Ultimately he just stopped wanting to help me……
Haaaa… and he has not offered again.
I’m a bad Type-A person.
Post # 16
lol i get married in a year n a half and the reason for that is cuz am i control freak andwant enough time to do things on my own my DIY projects r to be touched by no one but me. I already bought my candle holers which i will decorate myself. Also my table numbers I already bought what i need and my invitations as well. But iam doing those no one else. lol…glad to know am not the only one i was thinking to mysrlf, “could i be over doing it wanting to do all this on my own?” glad too see i am not the only one