Post # 1
My FI and I are quite crafty people. We do a lot of cross stitch and embriodery and are having a small mid century inspired wedding.
We’re having a dessert table/bar already with pies/gourmet marshmallows cookie bars and such.
We expect at most 70 people to come.
Our original idea was taking vintage hankies and hand embriodering our intitals and the date- mainly because we’re also marrying on my parents 50th anniversary-
however, after reading the favors post it sounds like this will be an awful idea- anyone think it is a good idea besides us?
Post # 3
To be totally honest I’m afraid I don’t think I would use these. I know you will love the idea of your names / dates on them aswell, but that is something for you, not your guests. I love the originality, but i’m afraid it’s not for me. I am all about food and drink favours
Post # 4
It’s a cute idea, but most people don’t use hankies, and those that might probably wouldn’t want one with your names and wedding date embroidered on it. It sounds like a lot of work for you guys that wouldn’t be appreciated by the guests.
Post # 5
thanks i appreciate the honesty. Maybe we won’t embrioder them at all and just have them. We’ve circumvented the food favour thing by having a full on dessert bar- so that’s why we went the textile route.
Post # 6
thanks for your honesty, I see your point. Perhaps we can only embroider the ones for my mom/sister his parents and the wedding party, which is tiny and leave the rest blank and people can take them if they want them?
Post # 7
I might embroider them for close family members, but I wouldn’t use your initials, but the initials of the giftee, if that makes sense.
Post # 8
Honestly I love the idea, but I don’t think guests would particularly like it outside of your immediate family. There have been so many details I’ve worked hard to arrange/make and I feel like when my wedding day comes only a handful of people are going to appreciate them. I think this is the same with the favors – unless they are really close relatives/friends most people don’t end up keeping or appreciating stuff like that. Kinda sucks!
Post # 9
@adoc86: I agree with this! If you’re really set on the idea, maybe you could do a few and just give them to your parents and siblings or something?
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
The only favor I have ever liked to receive (and I’ve been to dozens of weddings) have been edible. Every candle, matchbook, silly wine glass with their names has been thrown away.
Don’t take this personally and your idea sounds really sweet and thoughtful, but don’t go through the trouble. Wrap up a cookie or something!
Post # 11
I think that your idea is really cute. Normally it wouldn’t be my thing but as your guests know you guys are into embroidery and that you did it yourself…they would really appreciate the effort and sentimentality.
You could put a little tag with something like
‘Stitched with our love and appreciation’
Fabulous idea…..as pp said people dont use hankies these days… but imagine 80 years from now….someone going through their nannas things and finding a hand embroidered hanky with names and dates and wondering ‘how did nanna know these people?’… ‘who you guys are?’ and ‘how your life turned out?’
i love looking at my grandmas old linens and embroidery items and hearing the story behind them!
Awesome to add history to an already vintage item!!!
Post # 12
aw thanks that totally gives me a vote of confidence ! 🙂
Post # 13
I like the idea, but if you’re going to the trouble of embroidering your initials, why don’t you personalize it for the guest instead? That would be really sweet and I would remember it for sure. I would almost hand them out at the beginning of the ceremony for “tears of happiness” if that’s feasible.
Post # 14
@PugsandUnicorns: I love vintage embroidery and items. Our wedding has a vintage vibe too. That being said, I knwo not everyone is going to really get it, but as my FI siad the people who matter will get it and it will mean something to them. I too have put a lot of sweat into details, but thats me, thats how I am, and thats how I work. So yeah, while not every one of FI’s young cousins, my aunts and uncles, etc will appreciate it… I have a lot of people who will appreciate my effort. If you see this as something that is important to you then I say do it. Maybe if you do embroider everyones initials it will make them see it as a more personal favour? I do see a lot of wine glasses shot glasses, picture frames, etc at the goodwill from peoples weddings! And my dad (though he is 75) still uses hankies, and he has saved me from the sniffles many of times….
Post # 15
Our wedding is outdoors in the sun in summer, so I felt like fans were a kindness. We are doing vintage hankies with the fans, but not personalizing either. I’m OK with people not using them again, but I don’t want having our names on them to be what prevents them.
Post # 16
I’m giving vintage hankies to our immediate cirlce of women, and pocket squares to the men. I’m not sure if I’ll personalize them or not (I don’t needlepoint, but I could… learn? No, that’s crazy), but I’ve piked out some at antiques stores and got a few from Etsy shops. I’ve got hankies for my two bridesmaids, my MOH sister, my mom, his mom, his siter, and his grandmother, and we have pocket squares for his two groomsmen, his best man/brother, his dad, and my dad. I love giving gifts!