Post # 1
My FH and I are getting married this October, and we have decided to get married outdoors on his ranch. With an outdoor wedding comes a lot of work which I am willing to do since I will have 3 complete months during the summer to prepare and make the majority of our decorations. I plan to make: Inivitations, decorations for the ceremony and reception (mason jars, candles jars with glitter, hanging tissue paper pom poms, wedding favors). Seems like a lot, but it is totally doable. Currently though, I am getting a lot of backlash from my mom, dad and sister that it will not be possible. They are concerned that it will be a lot of planning and tedious to fulfill. Now, I am starting to have second thoughts about having it outdoors. Any advice from past brides or future brides that are having outdoor weddings would greatly be appreciated! Am I dreaming too big with the $20,000 budget I have?
Post # 3
It’s possible-but it will take a lot of work. Our weekends became consumed with wedding stuff for a while. We DIYed:
- menu cards
- OOT bags/door hangers
- Card box
- bridesmaid wine glasses
- my shoes 🙂
- Favor cards
- plus more that I am forgetting
It was a lot and we were working full time, so most stuff got done of the weekend. If you have the time to do it, then go for it!
Post # 4
@LadyBird20: It so totally possible! you just need to do some crazy time managment. I did most of my wedding DIY and I treated it as it was a part time job. I would make goals for myself on when to get things done by. invest in some great craft products- I bought a cricut that saved me time and money. use sites like saveoncrafts.com and ebay to get really great deals. get some of your bridesmaids and friends to help with the bigger projects- in exchange for wine/food. If you set it in your heart that this is what you want….it can totally happen.
Post # 5
@LadyBird20: it is possible but it will come down to this: how much free time will you have for your diy projects and how many people can help you?
Post # 6
@LadyBird20: Definitely doable. I am DIYing a lot of the same items as well, Invites, STDS, Menu, Program, Card Box, Most of Centrepieces, Bridal Shower Favors, etc.
I have worked two jobs over the holidays and work full time now. I’m also folding 1000 paper cranes and my fiance isn’t helping with any of the DIY so far.
SO If I can do that, I think you can definitely do what you want with the 3 months off!!
Post # 7
You should be fine you just have to keep at it, it can get extremely boring after a little while but 3 months should be plenty of time. I’be been DIY’ing everything except my dress and the cake. I’m sure your family just doesn’t want you to put unneccasry stress on yourself. Mine was concerned as well but it’s all worked out so far.
Post # 8
Totally doable. Lots of work ahead of you, organization will be the key.
Post # 9
@LadyBird20: Totally possible. My whole wedding was DIY, and my budget was less than half of yours. I suggest making a list of what you want done, prioritizing, and get an early start on your DIY’s. If you have people willing to help you out, great. If you don’t, it is still possible. I had some help from family and friends, but I did most stuff by myself.
Post # 10
@auggiefrog: This! Our budget is also about half of what yours is (and ours includes my dress, our rings, etc.). Definitely make a list and start early!
Post # 11
Thank you all so much for the encouragment! I feel better now that other brides like me are going through this! I will have to start making a list and time frame for all the DIYs. Thanks again!
Post # 12
You should do just fine! As PP’s mentioned, it will take some work.
My budget is 22,000, but that includes EVERYTHING [ering, honeymoon, rings, rental car]. Our honeymoon is going to be around 6-7k.
Save money where you can, and shop around for the best deals!
I’ve saved TONS of money on ebay.
Post # 13
@LadyBird20: YES.. as aussiefrog & vorpalette said above, my budget is also less than half of yours and that INCLUDES honeymoon! so i really have no choice but to DIY the crap out of everything. my advice- read the blog a practical wedding and if you have time, read the book by the author meg. it’s filled with tips and tricks for DIY and also includes some ways to deal with the backlash that tends to go along with it. (if you would like a copy of this book, PM me- i finished mine and it’s just sitting on the shelf). trust, i am getting the backlash too. i’m DIYing everything but my dress and the food. with your budget, if you can swing it, i highly suggest getting a day-of-coordinator. i found a retired party planner who has done tons of weddings at our venue. since she’s retired, she’s extremely affordable. even though i’m still 7 months out, i already feel so much relief knowing that i won’t have to worry about transporting all my stuff to the venue, setting it up, and making sure everything goes to plan. as other bees have said above- prioritize and organize! i highly recommend making a little (or huge, i won’t judge you) binder that you can keep all your DIY plans in. i have all my to-do lists in there and because i’m an exptremely visual person- i printed out calendar pages and hole-punched them, and i have my to-do list in calendar form. it really helps to prioritize when you see exactly how many weekends you have to devote to projects.
good luck! there are so many resources out there- just breathe and have fun with it- i read something somewhere that if a project can’t be completed with a glass of wine in your hand, it isn’t worth doing. i like that mantra.
Post # 14
@LadyBird20: oh my gosh, with a $20k budget its TOTALLY possible!
Your venue is free?
You have THREE MONTHS to collect/DIY everything and you can drop things off/set things up at the venue at any time because its his?
You have $20,000 to work with?!
as PP said it will be a lot of work but if you have the whole summer off anyway and make it your FULL TIME JOB over those 3 months, I think you will be very happily surprised at your abilities to make it all happen.
Definitely make to-do lists and timelines to keep yourself on track.
I would get used to looking on Cragislist and eBay for 2nd hand items.
DON’T get discouraged! Try, try, try and you will love what you come out with because YOU made it happen!
Post # 15
@LadyBird20: Yes, it is possible! I did pretty much all that DIY & always recieved the same shock and hesitation from my inlaws.
I DIY: invitations, programs, table numbers, escort cards, throwies for paper lanterns, yard game sign, all my centerpeices, my bouquet, my BM’s bouquets, boutineers, cupcake stand, cookie favor bags, welcome bags, and all signage including bar/food signs, cupcake sign, guestbook sign, bathroom basket, and chair signs.
Here a few shots of my DIY items at the wedding.
Post # 16
yes, it’s totally possible! you just need to start early and make sure you have plenty of time and patience. my wedding isn’t until august and i have about half of my projects done. i’ve done all of it myself, with a little help from my FI. also, my budget is only half of yours. here is my list:
- invites & rsvp cards (done)
- in memory of candle (done)
- seating chart (practically done)
- bridesmaid wine glasses (done)
- mr & mrs sign for head table (done)
- direction signs for outside
- favors (practically done)