Post # 1
I was thinking of adding this to our invitations (instead of a card with gift registry info)*:
Your presence at our wedding is the greatest thing of all.
Our only wish is that you’re there to help us have a ball!
But if you want to bring a gift and are feeling so compelled,
Of course feel free to chuck a buck into our wishing well!
I thought it was less awkward than some of the ones I found on Google that blatantly ask for money, seeing as it’s only asking for “a buck”, if anything… but I don’t know. For those of you who included a wishing well poem with their invitations, or will be, what do you think?
(And here’s hoping no one turns up on the day with a large male deer in tow…!)
*I realise many are of the opinion that it’s bad etiquette to include gift info with invitations – I am aware of this and have simply decided to add the issue to my “F*ck-It” Bucket!
Post # 3
@ksus07: Gotta admit even though in my opinion this info is okay, I am not the biggest fan of these kinds of poems.
i mean, you don’t feel the need to make your save the dates / your invitation / your menu rhyme. So why does this info have to rhyme?
i’d rather put the plain info in your regular words…
Post # 4
@ksus07: I’ll be in the minority, but I come from a place where people include in their invitations the cost of the dinner, or say ”gifts are not required” then mention there will be a wishing well on reception site. People do not take such detours to ask for money, they just state what they want and guests know what to expect (and if they don’t agree they can decline, but that doesn’t really happen). Poems like this amuse me, and although I don’t like it because it’s a lot of embellishment for (what I see as) a practical info, it wouldn’t offend me in the least. Many people will disagree, but as someone ”foreign” to the registry traditions (we don’t have registries here), to me it’s not different to offer guests the choice of offering money to an established couple if they want to, than the choice of buying specific items the couple has chosen and put on a list and guests can buy if they want to. As a guest, I will want to give you something either way, so if you need cash that’s what I’ll give you, if you want something from Kitchenaid that’s what I’ll get you. I don’t understand the whole taboo around money gifts, but again, it’s custom here and it’s what I’m used to.
Post # 5
@NauticalDisaster: Haha, are you from QC?
OP, the poem *is* that bad. You want money? No problem. But why does there need to be a poem?
Post # 6
@kittyface: Yes, I was updating my profile because I didn’t want people to just see ”Canada” in my profile and think I was saying it was done this way in every province. Didn’t want any confusion, I know this is quite specific to our province. 😛
Post # 7
@Kili: I think it’s always put in poem form to seem cutesy and innocuous to disguise the fact you’re asking for money.
@ksus07: *Maybe* put that on a sign in front of the wishing well. Do not ask for a dollar donation in your invitation…I wouldn’t write anything and would just put out wishing well. If people are familiar with it where you live they’ll be able to make up their minds about it at the wedding.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@ksus07: If you’ve putting asking for money in your “fuck-it” bucket, then just straight up say you want money instead of gifts. Don’t hide it behind a ridiculous poem, it kind of sounds like they’re reading a nursery rhyme lol.
Post # 9
Sorry, but begging for money is always considered rude by those who know the meaning of hospitality. “Even” in Australia there are plenty who would never do this. It’s worse to put a blatant request for money right on your invitations and to go ahead with it even though you are well aware that it is considered a serious breach of etiquette. The only excuse some people have is ignorance.
As for the “poem” it is that bad.
Post # 10
@ksus07: Two months ago you posted that you thought wishing wells were rude. What changed?
Post # 11
Here’s my question about wishing wells – do people just drop cash in there? If so, how do you know how to properly send thank you notes to thank them for their gift?
Post # 12
I agree…. personally I am not down with the blatent give us cash request (however I do think that it is fair for the family to put it out there if asked… ie if aunt mildred asks your mom what you want she can say something like well they already have a lot of stuff but they are saving up for a new house/trying to redo their house/going on a big vacation) but I rather just see it straight out than a “cutsey” poem
just say some thing like “in lieu of gifts a wishing well will be available”
Post # 14
@HannahGrace: I still feel weird about it, nothing’s changed there. It was my future mother-in-law who suggested the poem, saying it would be convenient for the guests to know that IF they want to bring anything, that there will be a wishing well.
Ok. So say I decide not to use this. What are the chances of people bringing boxed gifts to the wedding instead? (We’re having a cruise reception, and after everything’s said and done we will need to pack up and fly back home…?)
Post # 15
even if you ask for money, some people will still bring you gifts. please do not write that poem (esp in your invites!).
Post # 16
Thanks for your input, everyone. Do you think I should leave it off altogether and still have a ‘basket’ or wishing well in the corner of the reception somewhere..?