Ugh… another wishing well poem. Sorry – I promise it isn't that bad!

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: What do you think of my poem?
    I included a poem/gift registry info with my invitations. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    I didn't include a poem/gift registry info with my invitations. : (68 votes)
    41 %
    I like your poem. : (8 votes)
    5 %
    I don't like your poem. : (88 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
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    715 posts
    Busy bee

    @ksus07:  Gotta admit even though in my opinion this info is okay, I am not the biggest fan of these kinds of poems. 

    i mean, you don’t feel the need to make your save the dates / your invitation / your menu rhyme. So why does this info have to rhyme? 

    i’d rather put the plain info in your regular words… 

     

    Post # 4
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @ksus07:  I’ll be in the minority, but I come from a place where people include in their invitations the cost of the dinner, or say ”gifts are not required” then mention there will be a wishing well on reception site. People do not take such detours to ask for money, they just state what they want and guests know what to expect (and if they don’t agree they can decline, but that doesn’t really happen). Poems like this amuse me, and although I don’t like it because it’s a lot of embellishment for (what I see as) a practical info, it wouldn’t offend me in the least. Many people will disagree, but as someone ”foreign” to the registry traditions (we don’t have registries here), to me it’s not different to offer guests the choice of offering money to an established couple if they want to, than the choice of buying specific items the couple has chosen and put on a list and guests can buy if they want to. As a guest, I will want to give you something either way, so if you need cash that’s what I’ll give you, if you want something from Kitchenaid that’s what I’ll get you. I don’t understand the whole taboo around money gifts, but again, it’s custom here and it’s what I’m used to.

    Post # 5
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    1867 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @NauticalDisaster:  Haha, are you from QC?

    OP, the poem *is* that bad. You want money? No problem. But why does there need to be a poem?

    Post # 6
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @kittyface:  Yes, I was updating my profile because I didn’t want people to just see ”Canada” in my profile and think I was saying it was done this way in every province. Didn’t want any confusion, I know this is quite specific to our province. 😛

    Post # 7
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    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Kili:  I think it’s always put in poem form to seem cutesy and innocuous to disguise the fact you’re asking for money.

     

    @ksus07:  *Maybe* put that on a sign in front of the wishing well. Do not ask for a dollar donation in your invitation…I wouldn’t write anything and would just put out wishing well. If people are familiar with it where you live they’ll be able to make up their minds about it at the wedding.

    Post # 8
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    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @ksus07:  If you’ve putting asking for money in your “fuck-it” bucket, then just straight up say you want money instead of gifts. Don’t hide it behind a ridiculous poem, it kind of sounds like they’re reading a nursery rhyme lol.

    Post # 9
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    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Sorry, but begging for money is always considered rude by those who know the meaning of hospitality.  “Even” in Australia there are plenty who would never do  this.   It’s worse to put a blatant request for money right  on your invitations and to go ahead  with it even though you are well aware that it is considered a serious breach of etiquette. The only excuse some people have is ignorance. 

    As for the “poem” it  is that bad.  

    Post # 10
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    1441 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @ksus07:  Two months ago you posted that you thought wishing wells were rude.  What changed?

    Post # 11
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    3693 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Here’s my question about wishing wells – do people just drop cash in there? If so, how do you know how to properly send thank you notes to thank them for their gift? 

    Post # 12
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    1894 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree…. personally I am not down with the blatent give us cash request (however I do think that it is fair for the family to put it out there if asked… ie if aunt mildred asks your mom what you want she can say something like well they already have a lot of stuff but they are saving up for a new house/trying to redo their house/going on a big vacation) but I rather just see it straight out than a “cutsey” poem

     

    just say some thing like “in lieu of gifts a wishing well will be available”

    Post # 15
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    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    even if you ask for money, some people will still bring you gifts. please do not write that poem (esp in your invites!).

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