Post # 1
We are having a very small intimate wedding (35 ppl. max) because we really cannot afford to have more poeple attend our wedding. We are on a tight budget. I have cut down the guests list as much as I can for financial reasons. I have DIY alot of things to avoid over spending. However, everytime I think about the wedding, it seems there are just more and more things I have to buy or pay for and now I am really at the end of my rope.
So, I was wondering. We will have a DJ. Cost is about 700 $. I really, really want to have a dj and personally to me 700 $ is alot of money. Do I have to pay for his meal in addition to the 700 $ for his fee. I am already cutting out on the guest list because we really cannot afford to have more than 35 ppl and i am thinking if I cannot afford to have friends at my wedding that i woul really like to have because of financial reasons, why should I pay for a meal for a dj who I really do not personnally know and am already paying 700 $. I know it would be nice to pay his meal, but do I really, really, really need to?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
@Lauraine: Depends – some of my vendors have in their contract that we have to feed them, others don’t. We have to provide 6 meals for the band, for example.
Post # 4
A full tummy could mean a happier DJ, which means a better DJ experiance. I would do it.
How much would it cost you to feed him?
Post # 5
@Lauraine: If you don’t then are you ok with him leaving to go and get food? Most weddings are over a meal time and most DJ’s put it in their contract that they either get a meal or get the time for a meal break.
In my opinion it is the polite thing to do.
Honestly I think $700 for a DJ for a 35 person wedding is a waste. Why not have an ipod or something if money is tight? I woukld rather invite 10 more people than pay that for a DJ.
Post # 6
Our wedding ceremony and receptiion is in a small italian restaurant. It would cost around 50 $ for a meal, plus a glass of wine or beer if he decides to have one of these two. I will reread the contract to see if it includes a meal.
I’m just so freaking tired of spending money for the wedding that I guess this is why I feel like …uhg, do i really need to feed the dj???
When we first decided to get married. FI just wanted something real small, kind of lets go to the court house and then to a restaurant with the two witnesses. I was like. No way! I want music, friends, a nice meal, flowers,a nice dress etc. etc. etc. Believe me, if I had not already invested so much money in this wedding, I would just go to the court house, get married in front of a judge then go to a restaruants with two friends and call it a day. I don’t know how people can justify spending like 30K on a wedding.
Post # 7
Totally understand, it does get expensive.
Have you talked to the reastaurant about vendor meals? Sometimes they offer cheaper meals for the vendors.
Post # 8
I think you would be a good and gracious host to feed your vendor. Some have it in their contracts that if you do not provide them with a meal, they will take time away to provide their own. Is that something you’re prepared to sacrifice? Would you want to work for hours on your feed with nothing in your stomach? Even if you bought a platter of sandwiches, I advise you that it is a very good idea to feed the people working for you.
Post # 9
The owner of the restaurant said he had a good sound system and we could just play some CDs. I don’t know anything about ipods and there is only one person I think I could ask to look into it. But I heard it takes a really long time to download all the songs I would want on a ipod for a wedding reception. I mean there would have to be music downloaded for several hours. Ppl will start arriving at 2.30, the wedding ceremony is at 3 pm.and probably will be over by 3;45, then there will be cocktails and the meal. I think the meal will be served around 5:15 pm and finished around 6:45. I’m afraid if there isn’t a dj, ppl will leave soon after the meal and cake are served and I don’t want the evening to end at 9 pm. So, i figure if we have a dj ppl will stay longer and dance and have fun but to be honest, the more I think about it, the more i think it could be a good idea to skip the dj. have some cd played and just have a nice quiet and relaxing evening with friends and family. And plus the room where the reception is taking place is really not very big, so I’m afraid even if we do have a dj, people won’t dance so much cuz there won’t be alot of room to dance. I’m so tired of thinking about this that I don’t know what i want or what is best anymore!!!
Post # 10
@Lauraine: Well, I think it’s just the right/nice thing to do. Who’s doing your catering? Would it be possible for them to provide him with a standard meal at a discounted price? It doesn’t seem like too much to ask.
Might be worth asking and checking it out, but it really is up to you. Unless it’s in the DJ’s contract that he be provided a meal (our photographer has a note in his contract but has said that he’s fine either way).
Post # 11
I think it’s pretty standard to feel your vendors (DJ, photogrpaher, etc). Like a PP mentioned, can your venue offer a vendor meal? Our venue is charging us $25 for the vendor meal which is like 1/10th of the guest meal price. Your DJ is not a guest so you obviously don’t host them like everyone else by providing alcohol, cake, etc. They do not have to eat the same meal everyone else does.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your responses. Now that I’ve had a good night’s sleep and thought about it all, I will of course feed the dj. Our vendor is the restaurant owner and we’ve decidedd we will serve two kinds of chicken and some vegetarian dishes, appetizers and at least two wine glasses per guest, plus the cake. At the end of the evening, different little sandwishes and cheeses and veggies will be served.
I will check out with the vendor what I can serve the DJ who I desperately decided I want. I will tell him to put some nice, quiet and relaxing but fun music if I see the place is really too small for people to dance or if they don’t want to dance. I just can’t imagine my wedding reception without music and a dj to put it on.
Last night, I checked my guests list and I think I will cut five other people. I’ve also decided to cut on the flowers since the restaurant owner offered to get some. They will be pink and white carnations. Not really what I had in mind but hey, he’s paying for them. They will be place on each table. I will make sure I have candles everywhere. I think it will all turn out ok.
Post # 13
I just reread the contract with the dj and it is not mentionned in there that a meal should be provided but since the contract is from 2:30 to 10 pm, I really think at one point the guy will be hungry and wanting to eat. I will also make sure he gets a glass of wine, a beer or whatever else he wants to drink cuz something in me tells me it will be too early to stop the music at 10 pm and I might want him to go on a little longer. So i want him to be happy with us and then maybe, just maybe, he will want to go on for a tiny little bit more for a small fee lol. He’s also providing lighting for no extra charge which I think is kind of nice. Can’t wait!
Post # 14
In our contract agreement, it was specified that we had to feed them. So we did. We didn’t give them the same meal though.
Post # 15
My venue has the option of ‘vendor meals’. I’ll feed my deejay, videographer, and photographer. They’ll get a sandwich, chips, pickle, & cole slaw. That’s fair. They aren’t guests but it’s courteous to feed them so they perform their best to make my special day ss perfect as possible.
Post # 16
@Lauraine: You do not feed your vendors booze. A meal for sure. But does your boss serve you beer while you work? This is his job. He gets his meal, and possibly a soda.
A beer with dinner wouldn’t inspire him to stay later. To be honest I wouldn’t expect there to be much dancing at a 30 person wedding at a restaurant (Sorry). 2:30-10 is already 7.5 hours, and I really don’t see people staying at social events longer then that.