Post # 1
Let me start by saying that I work at my county law enforcement agency, and I have to do a report everynight that tells everyone that was booked into our jail. One night, I saw my DJ’s name on the report :/ It was a drinking and driving charge. He doesn’t go to court for another month, and may have to spend a couple days in jail.
I am already uncomfortable with having a DJ that will have spent time in jail right before my wedding, but I’m not trying to judge. $#!& happens, I suppose.
Now, I have emailed him twice asking to meet up so we can discuss music, ceremony and a time line. The last time I emailed him was March 20th. He told me he has been busy with his court related stuff (he knows where I work, so I think he knows that I know.. plus his girlfriend is a friend of mine).
I signed a contract with him, but now I’m leary he won’t be there for my wedding. I’m 6 months away and want to make sure I will have a DJ on the day of my wedding. The last thing I need to do is stress about this…. WHAT DO I DO?? Do I email him and get stern? Or do I let him contact me? HELP! What would you do?
Post # 3
Do you not have any kind of confidentiality agreement about your work? I suspect that you are bound to keep your mouth shut by either your contract or your employer.
Also I am a firm believer in innocent until proven guilty. If the DJ hasn’t yet had their court date then they are currently not guilty of anything.
I think you can still be firm in your email to him, firming things up. But honestly 6 months out from the wedding, I am not sure what you would actually need to firm up with him.
Post # 4
I would see how his court date goes! If they revoke his license, will he even be able to get to your venue?
I would start checking out other possible DJs, just in case!
Post # 5
@andielovesj: I agree. It would be pretty unprofessional, and possibly even something that could lead to you getting into serious trouble at work, if you were to bring this up to him. While I detest drinking and driving, I don’t see this having much of an effect on your wedding that is 6 months from now.
Post # 6
@JMS313: at 6 months out it is really too soon to discuss music choices for the actual day. I wouldn’t worry ab that aspect if your post. As for the court situation like PPs have said I’m sure legally you shouldn’t be discussing that.
Post # 7
You don’t really need to talk to him until a month out or so. I signed a contract with my DJ and then didn’t talk to him until 1 1/2 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 8
His court docket and jail record are all public record. Its something anyone could look up. Nothing confidential about it. I understand 6 months is a while away. I’m not worried about discussing the music. He has a good website where I can make a list of song choices. I just feel that he keeps blowing me off. I just want to talk to him about the basics and take him to the hall so I know he has room, the appropriate breakers, etc. It just seems to me that now he is in this trouble, he is avoiding me. In my opinion, if he wants my business he should answer my calls and emails. Thanks for the opinions.