(Closed) DJ’s who try and scare people into not doing iPod weddings

posted 8 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Thanks for looking out for us, Mr. Bee! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Mr. Bee to the rescue! Shoo bad vendors!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

*salutes Mr. Bee* There’s nothing like a good forum moderator! Who thinks the average person can’t work a flippin’ iPod, anyway?

Post # 6
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Wannabee

I think MrBee is referring to me as the “bad” vendor and I apologize to everyone for trying to point out some of the possible negatives that go along with diving into doing all of your own technical for your special day. I thought this website was a discussion forum that would welcome professionals who been doing it for years and years to help those who have never done it before to realize the ups and downs of both the ipod direciton and the dj direction. I see there are plenty of posts that support the ipod revolution so thought maybe someone should point out some of the pitfalls as well. My apologies for trying to educate those who have never done it before. I’ll make sure to just tow the line and agree with what everyone else is saying on here. Again..I apologize. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Thank you, Mr. Bee! I knew you guys would be on top of it. It’s one thing for vendors to post here if they can offer advice & helpful suggestions, but it’s another thing for someone to start bashing anyone for wanting to DIY something. I am having an Ipod reception as we are only having 35 people and a band or dj would be too much – not $$ wise but just overpowering for the environment. Of course, we are saving hundreds of dollars doing it this way, as well. I’m sure everyone who is doing an iPod reception has thought about the pitfalls and is reading this board for as much advice as possible!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Thanks so much for this post!  It is both reassuring and positive to hear both ends of the argument in a constructive manner =)

Post # 9
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Wannabee

Well…you guys just let me know if you want to find what possible pitfalls are that you should be looking out for if you are going to do an ipod wedding and I’ll help as much as I can. 

 

 

Post # 10
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Newbee

Thanks, Mr. Bee! I was getting really tired of feeling bad for having an Ipod Reception. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Thanks Mr. Bee.

I would definitely be someone on the fence about a DIY iPod reception vs. opting for a DJ. I can appreciate a constructive assessment of both options. Vendors should be aware that coming in with a single negative point can seem more like drama-mongering, is not helpful and can be off-putting (After considering the tone of the post that I saw, I actually felt pushed more toward the iPod option). I can’t speak for others, but I would feel more comfortable and value the information more if the focus was on the positives of having a DJ rather than the negatives of having an iPod. I don’t think that this subject requires someone to agree with everyone else, simply to provide a tactful and thoughtful presentation of their feelings and ideas. I know that can be hard when one feels strongly about a subject, but it is appreciated and brings a much more positive response.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Amen, Mr. Bee!  And thanks for looking out. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

As a Bee and an invitation Vendor (although I NEVER mention my business to other Bees) I am doing mostly DIY for my wedding. Mostly for financial reasons, and partially for fun. There are some things brides and grooms feel comfortable DIY’ing, some things they won’t. If you feel confident and comfortable doing your own Ipod music, then do it. If you don’t, then consider hiring someone. TIP-We did not hire a “Wedding DJ” we actually hired a guy we saw DJ at a couple parties and he is awesome and cheap. So look outside the “industry” for some things too. I know I shouldn’t be saying that being in the “industry” but let’s face it, time are tough, weddings are expensive, and we all need to get creative sometimes! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Intereting discussion. I read some of the DJ vs. iPod discussions but either didn’t see the offending posts or did not take them as so. I see the merit of both sides, but like in every debate, it’s not what you say but how you say it. Thanks Mr. Bee for starting this public discussion.

We considered an iPod but then realized we did not want to give the emcee job to a friend so we’re going to hire a DJ. As previously mentioned, we are going outside the industry as well and hiring a hobby DJ instead of someone who does it full time. Is this terrible of us for not supporting professionals who need work, maybe but we’ve seen this guy do another wedding and liked his style so we are prepared to book him over an iPod and still realize a slight savings over a professional.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

I saw one of those DJ-scares-about-ipods post earlier – I thought it was so strange!

ipods for weddings are FINE!

Post # 16
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Newbee

Oh my, vendor scare tactics.

Definitely not the type of people you want to engage with business. As a wedding coordinator, I see many couples who opt for either DJ’s or ipods. In my experience I’ve seen the ipod situation can get out of hand. Here are 5 tips if you choose to use an ipod playlist to help it run smoothly. It does require a bit of planning, beforehand 🙂

 

1. Make sure you designate a sober individual to watch over your ipod playlist if you are having dancing. Too many times I see a free for all, and suddenly dancing turns into a mish mash of songs too many people want to play. Songs get cut short, sometimes they start-stop-start-stop-change. It can become pain in the ear for other guests. Your music attendant should be informed not to stop music mid-song before changing songs or playlists.

 

2. Create playlists – and be sure to list them (and tape them nearby the computer). For example:

<span style=”white-space: pre;”> a. Cocktail Hour Music – shuffle or play in order

<span style=”white-space: pre;”> b. Dinner Music – do NOT shuffle.

<span style=”white-space: pre;”> c. First Dance – use this song version only (insert song title and singer)

 

3.  Be sure to list areas/times where music should be off. For example: Speech by (insert names and order) ensure music is lowered or set to off. And be sure you’ve assigned this duty and explained it to your music helper – or assign to your DOC if you have one.

 

4. Make sure you only have one version of your first dance stored – I’ve seen it happen twice where the song played for the first dance is the wrong version.

 

5. Determine if the music and dancing is a dealbreaker for you – meaning, if anything were to go a little off kilter, how would you feel? If you are relaxed about it, then you are likely to be ok and roll with the punches if things go a little unplanned. They very well can go exactly as planned, so don’t stress that every ipod wedding will be a disaster, with a little pre-planning and organization, you can have a seamless ipod music experience.

 

I encourage any couple to make a list of dealbreakers, because it’s these moments that will help you determine what help you need to pull off a wonderful event. So if dancing and a fun party on the dance floor is a must-have, considering using a professional to help pull it off. Do not choose a vendor because of scare tactics! 

 

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