Do any bee's consider themselves a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
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326 posts
Helper bee

According to this thing I am… I didn’t check about 5 boxes lol. My friends usually accept me for me, because in the end I have a big heart and typically try to do the “right” thing and step out and calm myself down for a bit. I actually attribute all this to my anxiety, I take natural pills for it, and it really has helped with overwhelming situations. The bottom line  is that it sucks, and that we have to learn to manage it, because its not fair to other people to always have to play by our rules, althought it would be nice. 

My weaknesses (the things that really affect me): More than one conversation going, bad breath,  too many deadlines approaching, disorganized people that manage to make more “issues”, running late, loud television, people asking too many favors in too little time, waiting on others (thats a big one). There are a lot more I’m just not thinking about them at this moment since I’m just chillen. 

FI always gets praised for being able to “handle” me, lol. Depending on the day, this might hurt my feelings, lol. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Two things occur to me:

1) the self test is vague enough that almost anyone would score on it, like astrology tends to “sound right” because it is so vague and open to interpretation

2) this test is linked directly to a lady trying to sell things based on the people visiting her page deciding they have the “condition” she is targeting.

a true diagnostic test should not be self administered but administered by a trained person, and should definitely not be administered by a person who has a vested interest in convincing you that you need “help”.

 

also – certain things will always be a challenge to certain people and that is alright. We are all different people and the world is a better place for our diversity.  At the same time though, having a “label” sometimes makes people feel that since they have a reason why they struggle with something, they will not be able to live in a way that is ‘normal’ and satisfactory. Please, leave the labels for soupcans and do whatever you need to be the best, most fulfilled, happiest you that you can be!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

 

FutureMrsM87:  I definitely identify in certain ways. I only actually heard of the term HSP recently but had always recognised that I was different in certain ways. I don’t see myself as highly sensitive in all of the ways the test identifies but definitely some of them.  For me it is a constant battle of mind vs (non-logical) feelings. I would say my main weaknesses are that because we are so hyper aware of other people’s feelings and shifts in their moods that I constantly assume that any negative changes are as a result of something I have done. I think it does has it’s positives in that because I am more aware of people’s feelings/needs then I can provide for these better.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yes! I just discovered her book recently. I identified with it so much. I have a lot of weaknesses. Lately I’ve been having problems with being social. It’s draining to me to have conversations where both sides are really involved in the talking. Like, it’s easier for me to do all the talking, or all the listening, but when I engage in a conversation where we’re talking equal amounts, I am sooo drained that after an hour I could sleep forever.

I feel like I can feel people’s moods and it makes me uncomfortable. I can always tell when someone is upset with me but pretending they aren’t. I can go from being rock-bottom depressed to being elated when someone else is happy.

I don’t really know how to lay it all out…almost my entire life revolves around how sensitive I am. Work, where I live, the distance I keep from my family. It’s not something I would have chosen but I think I’m a better person for it. Not better than other people, but better for myself. I’m the kind of friend everyone wants, the kind that knows when to just listen, or the kind that you can ask for advice. A lot of my friends come to me when they are grieving.

There’s a lot more to it, but like I said I don’t know how to lay it all out. Glad to hear that there is another HSP on the bee (although I’m sure there a lot more than we know of).

Post # 8
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Helper bee

FutureMrsM87:  just make sure that you are not attributing things to the “HSP”… It sounds like a unicorn… Have a convo with your doctor… Idk of you’re on birth control but that could have something to do with it… I have anxiety so many things stress me out Constantly… If it’s something that’s really affecting your daily life, then you should seek professional help. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Looking through the checkist:

  • I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.
  • Other people’s moods affect me.
  • I tend to be very sensitive to pain.
  • I am made uncomfortable by loud noises.
  • I am deeply moved by the arts or music.
  • My nervous system sometimes feels so frazzled that I just have to go off by myself.
  • I am conscientious.
  • I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time.
  • I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once.
  • I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things.
  • Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in me,disrupting my concentration or mood.
  • Changes in my life shake me up.
  • I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.
  • I find it unpleasant to have a lot going on at once.
  • I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.

The majority of things on this checklist seem to be things that most normal people (who aren’t sociopaths) would agree with.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i thought the test questions were a little strange.  i do not consider myself highly sensitive but i could check off numerous boxes.  these are qualities that many people have that aren’t issues.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

FutureMrsM87:  Please have another read of the only post in the first five you didn’t respond to. This is someone with something to sell. The condition and the self-test are made up. Highly sensitive is a description, not a condition. Sometimes things are tough. For everybody. We all use different coping straegies, from friends to medication to religion to less positive things like substanses. You pretty much just scored highly on being human.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I consider myself to be an extremely sensitive person (both emotionally and in reaction to stimuli), which this self-test has supported, but like PP said, I think of it as more of a description or symptom, not a condition. I attribute mine to a combination of things, both in my environment and my health. However, I understand that the paths to navigating through these kind of issues are not one-size-fits-all, and if Elaine Aron’s research and resources have been helpful for you and your journey, then that is all that matters! I don’t think it’s constructive to try to invalidate someone else’s feelings or values. I think it’s great that you’ve found a way to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and the way your body and mind work. I wish more people would invest time in doing so.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

FutureMrsM87:  I am highly sensitive. My doctor calls it  “innate sensitiveness” which is the term the psychiatrist Carl Jung coined in the early 1900’s to describe the same idea. Elaine Aron used Jung’s work in this area as the basis for her theory so they’re very related. It’s definitely not a new idea or phony excuse and there’s over 100 years of psycho-therapuetic research behind it.

Anyway, one thing that has made this easier for me is that my grandmother also was a HSP so my family already had some experience when I came along. Although, being called eccentric and sensitive annoyed me and hurt my feelings, they’re acceptance and relative accomodation to my “quirks” was really beneficial. As I have learned more about myself and grew into loving and accepting all of me rather than fighting against it, things have been amazing. Learning my triggers/stressors and how to cope with them, taking time away for self-care, and setting appropriate boundaries are helpful for me. I am very intentionally creating a life that is nurturing and affirming. I have an amazing group of friends and family who love, support and “get” me, which is a real gift and makes dealing with everything else much easier too. I am able to appreciate that there is a beauty and fullness of life that comes from really feeling it and thinking about it on a deeper level than most.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

FutureMrsM87:  That’s what’s great about the book. She doesn’t give you tools to make excuses, she gives you tools for making your life better. Learning how to live with the trait. I recommend reading it. 🙂

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