Post # 1
Just curious if any bees sometimes feel like all their emotions get the better of them sometimes? I had to lock myself in the bathroom yesterday and just have a little, 5 minute cry (my SO didn’t know at all, I don’t do this often and I definately don’t in front of him!)
I did feel better after a little cry though? Just think the anxiety and doubt that he will propose accumulates then catches me out on the odd off day!
Post # 3
I did when I was waiting. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Then when I found out a timeline he had, I settled a bit, but tbh, it was still in the back of my mind. My angst was heightened as FI was previously married, so I had the added bonus of ‘why not mmmmmmmmeeeeee!’… real mature I know.
when FI found out he was being deployed and would be leaving during the month of our ‘timeline’ I LOST it. I mean lost it. Obviously I was emotional because of the impending deployment, but the two paired together? Not good.
FI went out and bought a ring and proposed later that day. I kept the ring for 6 hours or so and then gave it back. I didn’t want our proposal to be like that. He proposed a month later or so, but still well before timeline.
Post # 4
I’m pretty sure that the Waiting board here is a good indication that some bees get over-emotional. I don’t mean this to be snarky, but there’s a TON of hyper-over-analysis going on sometimes.
And yes, I had my moments during waiting. I’m sure everyone does at several points in their relationship. I still have them now and I’m engaged.
Post # 5
@spaneshal: Yes, absolutley. We all have our good days and bad days. Usually I’m home from work before J, so if I’m not having a good day I’ll ball my eyes out in the shower before he gets home. Pathetic, I know. But I think (unfortunetly) we’ve all been there.
Post # 6
Yes, I am guilty of this. But I wouldn’t say I get over emotional, I just get crazy about it…and annoying. I annoy the crap out of my bf sometimes. I’m teasing him half the time, but most of the time still hoping he’ll let something slip. I drive myself crazy doing it. I know it will happen within 3 weeks, so I just have to learn to be patient. He keeps telling me I’m being nosy 😛
Post # 7
Thanks ladies it is reassuring to know I am not alone with these feelings! Sometimes I wish I was the man in our relationship – I would know exactly whats going on, and wouldn’t get so bothered about the proposal in the first place!
Ahh well, I think what we have all learnt is that we get emotional like this, because we care. Perhaps even.. TOO MUCH.
Post # 8
I sure do. It makes everything harder, because I try so hard to keep all of the emotions in. I don’t want to make BF upset with my emotions, because I know he’s trying to plan this amazing proposal… but, my emotions always seem to get the best of me.
Post # 9
I definitely had and it started some HORRIBLE waiting melt downs…. *sigh*
Post # 10
Yes definitely! Some days are hard, some days I don’t even think about waiting at all. I have more good days than bad now though.
@spaneshal: Sometimes I wish I was the man in our relationship – I would know exactly whats going on, and wouldn’t get so bothered about the proposal in the first place! Ahh well, I think what we have all learnt is that we get emotional like this, because we care. Perhaps even.. TOO MUCH.
I completely agree!
Post # 11
I guess I don’t just because we’ve been so open about discussing marriage, so it’s just a matter of saving up money and doing it when the time is right… not a matter of whether he’s going to ask or not. If that were the case, I’m sure I would be an emotional wreck not knowing. The only time I get a twinge of jealous/emotional feelings is when other people announce their engagement.
I agree that you should try to focus more on enjoying your relationship for what it is now and don’t hyper-analyze everything! I really believe that gets you a ring faster than hounding him and being miserable about the waiting!
Post # 12
haha. yeah. I have meltdowns often AND i do it to/in front of my boyfriend! lol, I feel bad complaining to my girlfriends because they’re in a situation where they can’t get engaged for a few years either, so my boyfriend always gets the earful when I’m feeling particularly sorry for myself. :p
Post # 13
I have had several meltdowns where I cry and mope and then a few temper tantrums, not proud of it but it just gets at me- especially when he’ll happily bring it up himself and drop hints some days and then not want to talk or give an inch if I bring it up, grrr lol
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I just get really frustrated and sick of waiting haha, sometimes it leads to tears
Post # 16
Not too often, but every now and then I get frustrated! I had a little one on Saturday – my aunty got engaged after dating a guy for only 8 months (she only just got divorced too!) I was happy for her but frustrated that everyone seems to be going ahead and doing this and we are stuck waiting. Doesn’t help that one of his best friends is engaged and HATES planning the wedding and keeps telling my boy all the bad points of engagement!