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Okay, I just am wondering if there is anyone else out there who ever gets soooo discouraged with their weight. As someone who used to be 23 pound lighter 1.5 years ago, it is so hard to wake up and feel confident every morning when I can't even fit in my clothes.
I used to be a fitness nut, but just don't have the time to be anymore as I am enrolled in 17 credits at school and work 40 hours a week. When I have free time, I need to take care of wedding stuff or sleep. I haven't been able to get the weight off that I have gained. In fact, I just feel like I am gaining more and more. I know that weighing 145 pounds at 5'7 is not technically overweight, but I feel giant when I look into all my size 2's that I will never be able to fit back into.
Does anyone else struggle with their self image and weight stuff? As brides, we should be feeling fabulous leading up to our weddings, not the opposite. Any tips for me?
blob here. 5'3" and 105. Sounds thin right? Nope, still pretty chubby. I cant excercise bc of a surgery I recently had. Cant excercise for 3 more months at best.
EDIT Actually probably 107 right now bc I just ate dinner.
LOL.... I couldn't have read your title at a better time than this...I just finished stuffing my face with a double cheeseburger & fries, and was eyeing the left over Halloween candy! I feel like a fatty fat fat cakes!
I feel like a big fat pile of fatness right now. I work at a newspaper and since today was an election day, they catered in food for us. Lasagna, salad, bread. But on top of it, I along with 3 or 4 others brought in left over candy. I ate more than I can count. Ugh. Tummy is mad.
There are days that I feel like a big blubbery whale. I see my thighs and my love handles and just want to cry because it feels like they are never going away. Even though my Wii FINALLY said I am normal, I still feel crappy. I'm trying to eat better, but I obviously have no resolve (blasted Nerd and Bottle Caps and Kit Kats!).I'm 5'4" and 145. I'm a curvy lady.
Just know you are not alone. We all have things about ourselves we don't like. Just keep working toward your goal weight and remember that your SO loves you just the way you are and will love you just the way you turn out/want to be.
I've been feeling like this lately. I've actually lost a lot of weight in the past year, but I've been having a very discouraging month or two. I gained so much weight when I was pregnant and barely lost anything afterward. I've lost 35lbs and still need to lose 10 more to be at pre-pregancy weight (and that was still the heaviest I had ever weighed). However, I'm 5'1" so just about any amount of weight looks bad.
I'm taking 18 credit hours, work, come home clean and hang out with FI (when he isn't out of state) and our daughter. We also have two dogs and a cat. I'm a busy lady and I rebroke my tailbone. Working out just isn't on my radar right now.
AND this was our first Halloween in our new house, which is in a subdivision, so we bought a ton of candy and only had two trick or treaters. :(
I've always been thin, my whole life. Then I got pregnant and gained 30 pounds in 3 months, and then miscarried. I was starving during my whole pregnancy, and I felt like I wanted to barf unless I was eating carbs. So yeah... I gained a lot! Most people don't know I was pregnant, they just know I got fat. My hubby is very supportive about it though, but as much as he keeps telling me that he's the only one who counts when it comes to thinking I look good, I know that I count more.
I am 6', but have put on about 30-40 lbs in the last few years. Luckily, I guess, since I am so tall it spreads out pretty well and doesn't look like I gained that much. But, on the other hand, I have to loose that much to make a dent as far as size and shape go. I have been going to the gym several times a week, and trying to eat better/not as much and have seen some results in the mirror, but no actual weight loss. This week I have been sick, so I haven't actually been to the gym in about a week and now I am feeling super gross. I am about to make a 16 hour drive today, and know that I will have to be careful about what I eat on the road (where McDonalds is the norm!).
I think that self image is something that a lot of women struggle with and it's a shame that many feel that they can't just come out and talk about it.
Right with you!! I'm 5'7 currently at about 152...used to be 130 :|
This month is my work out month though so let's hope things turn around...although that Halloween candy is mighty tempting....
I'm there too. 5'8.5" and about 167 now... used to be 147 and looked great.
*sigh*
*Puts hand up*
I am 20 pounds heavier than I want to be (have been for at least 3 years) but normally I am fit and overweight. But ever since the honeymoon (beginning of Sept) I have not been able to get back into a work-out schedule and I am a part-time personal trainer for pete's sake! Every time I train a client I feel uber guilty!
UGH!!!
I feel like that a lot. And it's depressing. I know I don't look the way I feel, but it's hard to escape the mental image of how you think you look vs what you look like really. For me it has nothing to do with height or numbers, it's just...like a self hatred thing, I don't know. It's a hard funk to get out of.
me me me. I'm 5'7 and weigh 145 at the moment. I would LOVE to be 135 again, but I already eat healthy, and I work and go to law school full time, so coming home and working out just never happens. I really do need to get back into it though.
Yes, I do feel like that from time to time and it totally sucks. It's particularly around my period and I generally have 1-2 days that are kind of a wash. But I came to realize that even though it simply can't be done on certain days, for all those other days, we really do see what we want to see and feel what we want to feel--respecting yourself and loving yourself is ultimately YOUR responsibility. And it's not about having the ideal body--it's about having the ideal mindset. So to some extent, you have to be your own cheerleader and you have to police your own thoughts. I know it's easier said than done, but you must to tell yourself when you think ugly thoughts--literally tell yourself--STOP. And you also have to tell yourself every day, every time you look in the mirror, that you are beautiful. YOU are the one who has to find beauty in yourself and you are the one who has to police your own poison.
The other thing that I do, which is probably more practical although perhaps difficult with your schedule, is take yoga (in a room without mirrors). The reason is because yoga put an emphasis on what my body could DO versus what it looked like, and it really did help me honor myself as I am today, not what I think I should be. At the very least, find a little time--even if it's just a 20 minute walk--for a bit of exercise to give to yourself. When you're active, even just a bit, you really will feel healthier. I don't even need to do that much, exercise-wise, to renew a bit of self-love.
I am very proud of how much weight I lost during my 20's, but being 5'1 (like a PP) ANY weight looks really bad. I sound impressive, 5'1 102 lbs (trying to be 101), but I don't think people would describe me as 'thin' at this weight, I look more 'normal' or 'healthy'. Again, which I know isn't a bad thing, but I'm discouraged because I work really hard at maintaining this weight and staying in shape and just look normal.
My body puts on weight really quickly and easily too. I'm especially sensitive to pasta which is my favorite food. This morning I weighed in at 104 which is REALLY high for me (again, being so short I have a small range) and even though I know it's because I've been eating a lot of pasta and not excersizing in the past couple of days, I feel like a fat pile of fatness.
Maybe you could focus on just eating better foods, rather than on losing weight. I know that what I'm eating has way more influence on how I feel about my body that what the actual number on the scale says. When I eat junk, I feel like junk. It doesn't have to be time consuming to eat more cleanly.
Ugh, me. I put on 10 lbs in the last year, and while that doesn't sound too bad, like many previous posters, I'm only 5'2" (and a half!) so it really shows. I used to weigh about what I do now, but I lost 10 lbs and then gained it all back, but even after I lost the first 10 lbs, I had wanted to lose another 10 or so. It's frustrating to be back where I started. But, also like many previous posters, my workout routine took a serious dive when I started working two jobs and going to school full time. Not to mention that FI's family DOES NOT eat healthy at all, and we eat with them at least 3-4 times a week. I grab something quick for lunch at work (ramen? they're sooo healthy) and dinner is usually not that healthy because again it's something quick that I don't have to cook forever so pasta or meat/potatoes in a skillet. Also, FI cooks a lot and he eats like his family, obviously.
I really want to turn it around soon so I can get back down to where I was before the wedding. I don't want to look like this in my wedding pictures. And I don't want to have a heart attack before 30 or something (my dad died while waiting for a heart transplant, and my mom has had two open heart surgeries and instead of a third they decided to just implant a defibrillator/pacemaker).
This feeling fluctuates for me. I REALLY used to feel like a fat pile of fatness a year ago- I had gained about 40 lbs since HS and I was so unhappy with how I looked.
Since then I've lost 30 lbs, but I've mostly stopped dieting and exercising since the summer b/c schedules got crazy busy. I hate it- Some days I look in the mirror and realize what I've accomplished and feel so confident, and other days I feel like a fat pile of fatness.
I'm trying pretty hard to get back in a fitness routine right now, so hopefully I can make myself get back into the swing of things and lose 5-10 more lbs in the next 8 months.
Ugh, yes! I am only 5'1" so any weight gain looks quite obvious. I also have a really small frame and until a couple of years ago, I was about 98 lbs and felt really healthy and awesome. I've gained about 15 lbs since then and I am soooo not comfortable in my own skin. I know I'm not fat, but this body does not feel like mine.
Anyway, my husband and I joined a gym yesterday with lots of awesome classes (yoga, pilates, dance, etc.) so I am hoping to shed a good 10 lbs by the time we go on vacation at the end of January.
I really appreciate the tone of this post because I am 5'6" and weigh 124 but the reality is that I FEEL gross... i use to be about 5lbs lighter but way toner, so i was significantly smaller. Mr. is really supportive because he loves the extra jiggle in my walk...hehehe. but i can't help but FEE like a fat blob of fatness...
Winter clothes don't help... all the layering just makes me feel like a blob
Ugh, yes! I was chubby/overweight in high school, but became a huge health and fitness nut in college (maybe a little too extreme). I was able to keep at a weight I was comfortable with for most of the last 10 years (although, granted, I did yo yo back and forth a lot, but I always stuck around 115-125).
However, since moving in with my BF six months ago, I have put on so much weight that it is depressing. I'm 5'6, and I weigh almost 140 right now. I feel chubby. NONE of my clothes fit anymore. I don't feel like dressing nice for my bf and just wear elastic yoga pants most of the time. Since I used to live in a city and walk EVERYWHERE, it helped keep my weight down, but since moving in with my BF, I work from home, and we live in a bad area so I NEVER walk. Try walking 3-5 miles a day to walking 10 feet to the fridge and back. Plus, we eat nonstop. Never have I had junk in the house but the boy is always bringing home cheetohs, tacos, whatever.
I feel disgusting and have started a diet every other Monday since I moved in I feel like, but it always ends up down the drain by Saturday. So frustrating. I just don't feel good about myself at all or attractive and I really want to feel that way...we have a beach vacation coming up and I also wanna look nice for our future engagment and wedding. I tried going to a local gym but I just don't have the same fitness bug I once did. I feel tired and lethargic all the time. I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO :(
YES!!!!! Since Mr. C and I met and I changed jobs I have put on 22lbs. I'm only 5'4" so that is NOT good! I used tobe pretty thin, though never super-thin, and am just so uncomfortable in my own skin.
I had lost 10lbs and was working out like crazy and then everything went haywire a few weeks ago (who moves 4 weeks before their wedding? This girl right here). The past week I just feel like a giant blob of flab because I haven't had time to work out and have been eating crap. I have a super -sensitive stomach too, so I currently look 3 months pregnant and it takes at least a week for it to straighten out again. My final fitting is coming up and I'm pertrified that the dress isn't going to fit!
A PP mentioned eating with FH's family and I so get it - Mr. C is 6'5", 250 and a martial artist so a) he needs way more calories than I do, but does all the cooking (yay, work!), and b) his family thinks green beans boiled with bacon and a pound of salt is health food because "it's vegetables". ACK!
@TealChocolate: I think you were referring to my post, and I had to laugh because while reading your post, I was thinking -- yup, that's us. FI is 6'2" and a former football player and wrestler who can cut (and gain) weight in a few days. He also runs like 3 miles a day and lifts, so he burns and eats a ton of calories... but I just eat. He also gets home earlier than I do from work and has time for all this.
I've been yo-yo-ing since I was eight years old. Back in 2000-2001 I dropped about 50 pounds. Beginning in 2006 the weight started creeping back on. Then there were some stressors in life, including grad school and WHAM! All 50 pounds back on. I was so sad/mad/disgusted the day I got on the scale and the number hit me (I obviously knew I was gaining weight because I had to buy new clothes).
I am now really trying to take care of my weight (8 pounds off so far & clothes fitting looser). I still have moments when I get so angry with myself that I lost control of my weight yet again.
Yeah pretty much! My ideal weight is 130 at 5'5, for some reason I look really skinny at that weight. But I am 140 right now because of office work, which I dont ever do, but just doing to help out my FMIL. And living in the country right now, I swear they eat desert every day, twice! Oh and alot of white bread, haha. So todays lunch will consist of an orange, and a laxative, haha, jk about the laxative, but an orange should do er.
@JennyW1: totally agreed!
This thread makes me so sad. I used to struggle tremendously with feeling like this, though it's gotten so much better over the past couple of years, for various reasons, most of them putting a lot of hard mental work into loving my body and learning not to think about it this way. There are good days and bad days, though.
I totally don't mean to be critical of people for admitting they feel like this - I actually think it's great to see other people share the same insecurities, but what makes me sad is we see our bodies and not our mindets as the enemy sometimes.
Also, weight really is just a number albeit one really easy to get caught up on. That was the biggest thing I needed to get over, since I am also a shortie, but a big-boned, very muscular shortie (hence all the posts about wedding dresses to flatter my massive shoulders! ;). I calculated based on recent weight/bf% and could be at 0% body fat and still heavier than some of you (except for the whole being dead thing).
All of you have just made me feel even fatter... You guys are NOT FAT! I am not even fat and am 5'4 and weight 175. Seriously...
Ugh, yes. I know that I'm not technically overweight (5'8.5", 147lbs) but things jiggle that I don't want to. I blame it on my sedentary job, but I know I should be doing more cardio.. I just seriously don't have time for it.
Then I eat a pumpkin muffin instead of the apple sitting in front of me and feel even worse, lol. It's a vicious cycle. But no, you're not alone! I think the majority of women feel like this, at least sometimes. Even more pressure when you want to look good for your wedding!
Yes, always!
I lost about 40 lbs doing Weight Watchers over the period of a year and a half. I felt great. Well, in the past year I have put back 25 of those pounds! Now I have to do it all over again.
So yes, I do feel like a fat pile of fatness.
I feel like a fat pile of fatness too! Ugh, I hate this feeling! I am 5'8" and weigh 100 pounds. My BFF said that it looks like I am having trouble losing that last five pounds. I don't know what I can do at this point. I've cut down to 800 calories a day for the past two weeks and it's not working it seems.
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm 5'6 right now and 216 pounds. A year ago, I weighed about 20 pounds lighter. Still a little (ok, A LOT) far off from where I wanted to be, but I still felt better.
I just got lazy. Working from 7 am to 7 pm in a high stress environment just made it difficult. I didn't have the time to go to the gym after work because it was come home, cook, do laundry/dishes/other household chores, shower, go to bed and start again the next day.
Now that my schedule is a little more calm, I can't seem to get back into the swing of things. I try walking and everything, but it's like I can't get the weight off, and dieting can be difficult when you, your FH, you FMIL and oh, nearly everyone else you know, cooks and cooks a lot.
I know if I ever want to lose the weight, I'm going to have to get on it, but it always took me forever to lose weight, which is why it's so discouraging now...
This post makes me sad. There are multiple people who are actually underweight or near the minimum cut-off for a healthy BMI, who are trying to lose more weight or are unhappy with their current weight.
@heatherrobyn: I feel the same way! My closet is filled with size 2's and 4's that I can't fit into! I am actually the same height and weight as you right now.
I thought brides lost weight because of wedding stress but I am actually having the exact opposite problem!
Looking for a workout buddy if anyone in the philly burbs is interested :)
Let me guess...you wear a size 6 now? I have some 4's in my closet too and I can't fit into them either. I had to go out this past weekend and buy some 6's! I felt horrible about this! I would ideally like to get back into my 4's, but maybe even go down to a 2 if it's possible.
I am really not trying to insult you in any way, shape, or form. You are entitled like everyone else to feel crappy about yourself. But at 5'8, 100 lbs, you have got to be tiny. PLease do not try to lose any more weight, it just deosn't seem healthy. I am certain you look positively great just the way you are!
@Birdie Love: I can totally relate to your experience. I used to be skinny then got a sedentary job and my weight began to creep up. I gained 40 lbs, realized it, and dropped it in 2 years. I swore to myself I would never let myself go again. Then I proceeded to get rid of all my "fat" clothes. Five years later, I gained back the 40 lbs and added another 10. I am so mad at myself for letting myself go, but just like you there were major life changes in those 5 years: divorce, moving, buying a home, meeting someone new, moving-in together and graduate school.
I am back at trying to get rid of it, however, this time it's different. I actually look forward to working out because I consider it "me" time. My weightloss goal this time, isn't so much so that I am back to skinny. I just want to be healthy and priming to start a family. But yes, somedays I feel like fat piles of fatness.
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