Post # 1
Title says it all!
Ladies, obviously we haven’t gotten “The One Ring” yet but since we’re here obviously our relationships are serious.
I was wondering if any of you have been given “Promise” jewelry (rings, necklaces etc) and what they mean to the two of you.
My understanding of “Promise” jewelry (at least in my family) is that it symbolizes that while you are not yet engaged you are serious about your relationship and are planning to make the next step at a point in the (soon to not so soon) future.
For my birthday last year my boyfriend got me a Claddagh ring after hearing about them from my extremely Irish cousin. I wear it with the heart pointing towards me, symbolizing that my heart has been taken. (Here’s more information from wikipedia for those who don’t know them: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claddagh_ring )
Our proposal is definitely going to be at least a year off so he might be surprising me with a “Pre-proposal ring” (he wanted to make the name as corny as possible lol also it’s fun to say!) that would symbolize that although we haven’t gotten engaged yet we are on the same page and headed in that direction (and honestly I just like shiny things!
Post # 3
No. I see promise jewelry as something more geared towards younger couples, like those in their teens and maybe early twenties – we’re 25 and planning an engagement for later this year, so a “promise” ring would kinda be pointless lol.
I wear a claddagh ring, but I bought it for myself last year to symbolize the healing and self love I had developed after breaking up with my ex-FI. I do wear it pointing in now, to symbolize that my heart is taken.
Post # 4
Back when we first got serious he got me a promise ring. It’s a massive sapphire, and beautiful… I still wear it when we go out. At the time he was 21 and I was 20… I got my “One Ring” 7 years to the day after I got my promise ring. We got married 9 years to the day that we started dating. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’ll get a pic up of it later…
Post # 5
We are not a “very young” couple, I’d say we are regular age for marriage… I’m in my late 20s and he’s in his late 30s and my DH gave me a promise ring before we were engaged.
Post # 6
Before my engagement ring, he gave me a promise ring in high school. It meant a lot to us, but then people heard and everyone got promise rings that meant next to nothing, so it made ours lose value in the eyes of others. But that’s okay, because now I have the real deal and I’m planning my wedding! 😉
Post # 7
DH gave me a promise ring about 10 months into our relationship. To be honest, however, I’m not really sure what was meant by it. I guess it was a promise that he was in it for the long-haul, but he did a lot of things between the day he gave it to me and the day we got married (or even engaged–8 years later–for that matter), which made me question his intentions. Luckily, we’ve worked through it all.
Post # 8
No. We both see it as teenage thing, we met when I was 21.
Post # 9
I got a promise ring from my now FI just over a year and a half prior to my engagement ring. I wear it always on my right hand now.
Post # 10
I got a promise ring in high school… because obviously, we were too young to get engaged. Not with that guy anymore and I would think it was super weird if my 42 year old Manfriend bought me a promise ring. I’d be like “Um… where’s my engagement ring?!”
Post # 11
We are not young… I was 30 and FH was 45 when he gave me a promise ring/domestic partnership ring! We were about to move to MN and due to the high cost of the move, we went for a commitment ring instead of a e-ring. It is a beautiful big blue judith Ripka ring that is fabulous! we we’re engaged about two weeks after the move 🙂
Post # 12
@FEDORAble: No, and I wouldnt want one for a couple of reasons:
1)save that money for the real deal! We already live together, have pets, bills, and vehicles together, so I’ve kind of taken the level of committment and merging of our lives the last two years as a “promise”. I’d rather him put what he’d spend on the promise ring toward my engagement ring.
2)when he gave it to me, the second i saw a ring box, i’d go into “this-is-it” mode, i’m positive. That actually happened to a friend of ours: her boyfriend of a few years took her on this awesome weekend trip and lavished her the entire time. Then at the end of it pulls a ring box out of his pocket and starts telling her how much he loves her and wants to be with her, etc (aka “Things Men Say When They Propose”). So she’s bawling because she thinks (reasonably so) its THAT ring……..and he opens the box and tells her it’s a promise ring. The kicker is: it’s a nice ring, one that easily could be an engagement ring.
I’ll let you guess her feelings on it.
Post # 13
No. I’m not sure I see the point. I associate promise rings as something for teenagers.
Post # 14
Yes. And I actually did a post about this yesterday here in Waiting. 😉 I had never received anything like that before. But love it.
Post # 15
@FEDORAble: I got a promise ring the day he told me he loved me. We were both 23. It was too soon to get engaged (we’d been together a month), but we knew we would we wanted to marry each other. It was a promise to me that he would hold to his commitment and be honest through our relationship. It’s a Hellenite ring (Emerald Obsidianite)…a stone that can only be found/formed around Mount St. Helens :). It originally wasn’t part of the plan to give me a ring, but it turned out to be a good touch and a good reminder.
Post # 16
I still have the promise ring FI gave me when we were 15, haha. Its just a plain band so I still wear it as a RHR.
I do see promise jewelry as being pretty juvenile. I think mine is sweet, but we were 15 for crap’s sake. If he had given me that at 25 it wouldn’t be so cute, lol. However I think someone can give their GF other jewelry and as long as it isn’t labeled as “promise” its fine 🙂