(Closed) Do brides have claim to honeymoon destinations?

posted 8 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.  Usually it’s the other way around…people encouraging you to go where they went so they can tell you all about it.

I would tell her to shut it.  Seriously.

Post # 4
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think she’s totally overreacting!! Does she think she’s the first person to ever honeymoon in Kauai? I think it’s completly inappropriate for her to be making snide remarks.

As long as you and your FI are happy with a Kauai’n vacation then don’t worry about her comments!

Post # 5
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13686 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

She is completely overreacting.  Why in the world would she care where you’re going on your honeymoon?  A real friend would have started offering you advice if she found out you were going to the same place that she did.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

How immature! There is no such thing as “copying a honeymoon,” just ignore her, she’s obviously petty. If she told me what she’s telling your friends about you copying her, I would think she’s a little crazy. If your honeymoon location is perfect for you two, don’t be dissuaded and make sure you have a great time!

Post # 7
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

OMG, that’s absurd!  I’d do what you had planned.  Who cares what some (obviously insecure and jealous) girl thinks.  I’m sure anyone on the receiving end of her rants about it thinks she’s crazy.  First of all Halwaii is a huge honeymoon location, if you’re copying her you’re probably copying a few others you know.  And if you have to avoid going anywhere has been traveled to by friends, you may be limited to like… your house!  That is so strange, you should go there and send her a postcard!  haha

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

she’s being totally irrational and unreasonable!

[Your in-laws going to the same place as your honeymoon AT THE SAME time….that is unreasonable, but it’s a story for another day]

Just try to ignore it as best you can…and mums the word.  Don’t talk to her about it or tell her your specific plans(where you stay, eat, what you do).  If she offers advice I would politely decline and say you’d like to plan things on your own.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

That’s stupid.  Tune her out and don’t let it get to you.  Everyone else will see how ridiculous she’s being.

Post # 10
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

You should have said “Oh, I forgot you went there! Gosh wasn’t your wedding like 3 years ago? How time flies”

Post # 11
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Okay, TONS of people go to Hawaii and Kauai for their honeymoons.  So either there are a million people copying her or she’s being rediculous.  Ugh.

Post # 12
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

LOL, while you are likely justifiably miffed and a little hurt by her behaviour, I am willing to bet that everyone else around her thinks she is a flaming idiot and is laughing at her. That is so weirdly immature, her social stock must be plummeting.

Honestly, next time she says something like this in front of you, put on your most saccharine sweet smile possible and say “well, of course we are copying you! You are such a great role model of style and grace.” 

BTW, I also love moderdaisy’s response.

Post # 13
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

that’s silly. she doesn’t own that honeymoon. when we were planning our honeymoon, everyone we talked to kept telling us to go the same place that they went to because they all loved their honeymoons so much, they wanted us to have the same great experience.

Post # 14
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think she is being wholely unreasonable and little bit crazy. I know quite a few people who’ve honeymooned in Hawaii. Would I avoid Hawaii for that reason? NO! She must be jealous or petty or something. If she were a real friend, she’d be offering you advice instead of accusations! Go ahead with your plans. I am sure all your real friends are behind you 100%! 🙂

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

She’s crazy, pay no attention to her.

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