Post # 1
Do the brides maid dress have to “go with” my gown? My gown is simple but unique strapless gown, with feathers on top. I was thinking of choosing this Lazaro gown for the bridesmaids.
It’s a summer wedding, with a tented reception near a castle.
Post # 3
I don’t think the dresses need to “go with” the gown, but they shouldn’t be wildly different styles… does that make sense? If for no other reason than that both sets of dresses should be roughly equivalent to the overall formality of the event (e.g. would wouldn’t – I hope – wear a princess ballgown at a tropical beach wedding)
For example, I have a tea length vintage style wedding dress, my one and only maid is wearing a short strapless dress. The styles are different but don’t look like they are from two different weddings.
Post # 4
I think to some degree, they need to go together. They can’t be totally different or it would look odd. To me, the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses should always be a bit simpler than the wedding dress, but that’s just me.
Post # 5
In short, no, they don’t have to match with your dress. But.
Floor length satin is going to be brutal in the summer. Your BMs will be sweaty little wilting flowers in that thing. Be a pal and find something light and breezy.
This is a similar style and in chiffon which is a lot lighter of a fabric. Floor length is still going to be pretty hot, especially since this is polyester lined but it’s better than that satin.
Post # 6
Ditto on the satin in the summer. Be careful with that! But as long as it complements your dress you’re fine!
Post # 7
@kerrimarie: I don’t think they need to be super matchy-matchy. It is a balance of similar enough but different enough that seems to set the right tone. My dress was an A-line Renaissance satin with a sweetheart neckline, ruching and four fabric flowers as detail on the left side. I had my bridesmaids in chiffon sheath dresses with sweetheart neckline or thin straps (one girl needed more support for her bust!) a small section of ruching and a single flower on the left. It was all complimentary, they each stood apart from each other but were alike enough to be pleasing to the eye. Hope this helps you!
Post # 8
I’m having my bridesmaids wear a similar dress, but I don’t think it’s a hard and fast rule…I just really like the v-neck style with the empire waist
Post # 9
I agree that they should go together but that they do not have to match completely. Same formality is a good point and I personally agree that the bridesmaids dresses should not be as elaborate as the brides. I have two very different dresses in mind and have one bridesmaid dress picked out for each of them. (with my bridesmaids’ help of course).
Post # 10
As PPs have said, I think they need to be similar in formality, but they don’t have to “go.” For example, if you had a fun tea-length dress, you probably shouldn’t put your girls in floor-length satin, because the formality would be totally off. But other than that, i don’t think there are really any rules.
Then again, this is coming from the girl whose dress guidelines are “a knee-length black dress that doesn’t make you look like a hussy,” so take my advise with a grain of salt.
Post # 11
I don’t think they have to match the gown necessarily as long as they look nice and go along with the wedding and season. for example my wedding is in march and in Utah it’s pretty darn cold during that month and even though everything is taking place inside i felt it would be torture to have my girls in short dresses, so I chose long formal dresses for them
Post # 12
Hi no I don’t think that the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses have to match your gown. I just believe they shoild be flattering and represent the type of wedding it will be. Also, do your BM’s a fav put them in Chiffon and not satin it will be brutal that’s what I will be doing for my BMs so they can be comfy
Post # 13
Thanks for all the help and suggestions! I’m going with this short jim hjelm dress in purple. I think its fun for a summer wedding! Still a thick satin but its short and cute!
Post # 14
They only need to be similar enough so that they don’t clash. But my sister apparently thinks otherwise. She chose her bridesmaid dresses because they had bows on them and she has a sash.