Do Bridesmaids/Bridal Parties usually help pay for wedding vendors?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, you definitely should not have to help pay for vendors. That is the bride and groom’s responsibility.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

No, bridal party is not supposed to help pay for wedding vendors.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

BreezyBride24:  No. No sane person I have ever met would think to ask their BP to pitch in for vendor items at their wedding and/or reception. Crazy. I’ve been in many wedding and not once have I been asked to kick in towards a DJ, photo booth, favors, etc.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

she’s taking advantage, looks like you’re already paying enough to be part of this wedding as it is. The bride is beyond rude. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

BreezyBride24:  Absolutely not. You don’t even have to pitch in for a necessary vendor. The wedding is for the couple (or in some cases the parents) to fund.

In my social circle the bridal shower and bachelorette are funded by the bridal party but never anything to do with the actual wedding or reception (besides of course dress, hotel, etc.)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

No. I don’t think you should. IF you do, and the cost is within the budget of the gift you would have been giving I might consider offering it as the gift.  Perhaps get the bridesmaids together and discuss doing the photobooth for her as a group gift. 

However I would certaintly be a little uncomfortable that she asked you to help her pay for something like that. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Absolutely not.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

BreezyBride24:  no way!! I’d feel taken advantage of if i was asked, and like a completely jackass if I was the one asking. I would politely respond that you are unable to contribute to that cost. 

Post # 11
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579 posts
Busy bee

Nope. No. No. No. No. No. Nope.

 

No.

Post # 12
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1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

What?! No! That’s nuts. You’re a friend, not an ATM. Tell her to stuff it (politely, if you want to maintain the friendship, like “Martha, I’m sorry but that’s not in my budget. If it’s required of the bridal party I’m afraid I won’t be able to participate.”)

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

O.o

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