Do children actually get upset when they find out santa is not real?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@freshflowers:  I slowly figured it out. Really what gave it away was my mom’s handwriting on the packages. She wrote “From: Santa” and her handwriting is really easy to detect. 

…Also, instead of pouring milk for him, she made us pour diet mountain dew. Which just happened to be her favorite drink. 

So one Christmas I asked my great grandma if he was real. And she said “Well, what do you think?” So I said “I don’t think he’s real.” And she said “I think you’re right.”

That was it…I wasn’t upset. More annoyed. 

Post # 5
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My mom told me during a trip to a department store when I was about 8 years old. I remember giggling and crying at the same time as I went down the list of em’… How bout’ the Tooth Fairy? Tear, giggle… I wasn’t mad just shocked.

Post # 6
6450 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t even remember finding out so I can’t imagine that I got too upset.

Post # 7
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@freshflowers:  I found out when my parents made me an amazing barbie doll bed. My mom made the mistake of taking me to get the fabric, which I recognized on the “blanket.” I saw that it was from Santa, but I knew they had made it. I must have been 6, because my mom says I kept up appearances to make sure my little sister didn’t find out, but that I gave her “a knowing” look.

@lolita39: Oh yes, when I have kids I am definitely telling them that Santa prefers wine!


Post # 8
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@freshflowers:  One of my cousins believed in Santa for quite some time, until he was 11 or so.  When he found out, he asked his mother (VERY indignantly), “What ELSE have you been lying to me about?!”


I personally pretty much always knew that it was essentially a game of make believe, and I just played along 😉

Post # 9
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

When I confronted my mom and she confessed, it kind of felt like someone had died.

It also made me feel really awful for all the years I thought it was safe to bitch to my mom about some of “Santa’s” gifts.

Post # 10
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@freshflowers:  I think most kids tend to figure it out but pretend to believe- I remember thinking my mom would stop getting the gifts from Santa if we told her and then we wouldn’t get as much. I actually don’t ever really believing in Santa but I really believed in Easter bunny.  Writing this is making me realize how bad of a memory I have lol

Post # 11
1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I think most parents tell their kid when the kid already has it mostly figured out/heavy doubts, so it’s really just confirming their suspicions rather than blowing the lid off something.

Post # 12
15016 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not sure even when my son figured it out, I know he faked it for a few years. So obviously it didn’t affect him too terribly. 

@missfrillycoat:  why did I never think of wine!? 

Post # 14
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes, I was pisssed off that I was lied to by my own mother, and i was pissed off that other kids didn’t know yet and we got into arguments about it (actual arguments with hurt feelings), and all for nothing!

Nobody ever told me the Little Mermaid was real and I still enjoyed the heck out of that movie. Santa will be treated like any other fun childhood character in this household. “Make-believe, and lots of fun!”

Post # 15
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I figured it out, and was officially told when I was around 10. My brother was only 5 though, so my mom entrusted me with “keeping Santa magical” for him, and I felt special for being part of the illusion. 

I will definitely promote Santa, and find a way to let future children down gently. It surprises me to see all of these posts, in a way. It’s fine with me if people don’t want to do Santa for their kids too.

Post # 16
50 posts
Worker bee

My daughter is ten and she was kind of bitter about it.  I’m not sure why, though.  I never made a big deal about Santa.

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