Post # 1
I have heard of this. Children getting really hurt and upset upon figuring out santa is not real.
But I have never heard of any actual situations like this. I suppose the difference is parents telling children before they’re ready vs. the kids just getting older and figuring it out.
I don’t remember being upset in the slightest. Just growing out of it
How did your children react to figuring out Santa was not real? How did they figure it out?
Post # 3
@freshflowers: I slowly figured it out. Really what gave it away was my mom’s handwriting on the packages. She wrote “From: Santa” and her handwriting is really easy to detect.
…Also, instead of pouring milk for him, she made us pour diet mountain dew. Which just happened to be her favorite drink.
So one Christmas I asked my great grandma if he was real. And she said “Well, what do you think?” So I said “I don’t think he’s real.” And she said “I think you’re right.”
That was it…I wasn’t upset. More annoyed.
Post # 4
I seem to remember slowly figuring it out. i don’t remember being upset or anything. I just grew out of it.
Post # 5
My mom told me during a trip to a department store when I was about 8 years old. I remember giggling and crying at the same time as I went down the list of em’… How bout’ the Tooth Fairy? Tear, giggle… I wasn’t mad just shocked.
Post # 6
I don’t even remember finding out so I can’t imagine that I got too upset.
Post # 7
@freshflowers: I found out when my parents made me an amazing barbie doll bed. My mom made the mistake of taking me to get the fabric, which I recognized on the “blanket.” I saw that it was from Santa, but I knew they had made it. I must have been 6, because my mom says I kept up appearances to make sure my little sister didn’t find out, but that I gave her “a knowing” look.
@lolita39: Oh yes, when I have kids I am definitely telling them that Santa prefers wine!
Post # 8
@freshflowers: One of my cousins believed in Santa for quite some time, until he was 11 or so. When he found out, he asked his mother (VERY indignantly), “What ELSE have you been lying to me about?!”
I personally pretty much always knew that it was essentially a game of make believe, and I just played along 😉
Post # 9
When I confronted my mom and she confessed, it kind of felt like someone had died.
It also made me feel really awful for all the years I thought it was safe to bitch to my mom about some of “Santa’s” gifts.
Post # 10
@freshflowers: I think most kids tend to figure it out but pretend to believe- I remember thinking my mom would stop getting the gifts from Santa if we told her and then we wouldn’t get as much. I actually don’t ever really believing in Santa but I really believed in Easter bunny. Writing this is making me realize how bad of a memory I have lol
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I think most parents tell their kid when the kid already has it mostly figured out/heavy doubts, so it’s really just confirming their suspicions rather than blowing the lid off something.
Post # 12
I’m not sure even when my son figured it out, I know he faked it for a few years. So obviously it didn’t affect him too terribly.
@missfrillycoat: why did I never think of wine!?
Post # 13
@soinlove79: That’s funny. i remember being the opposite. I believed whole heartedly in santa. But I never remember believing in the easter bunny. it just seemed too far fetched to me, the whole magical bunny thing and all
Post # 14
Yes, I was pisssed off that I was lied to by my own mother, and i was pissed off that other kids didn’t know yet and we got into arguments about it (actual arguments with hurt feelings), and all for nothing!
Nobody ever told me the Little Mermaid was real and I still enjoyed the heck out of that movie. Santa will be treated like any other fun childhood character in this household. “Make-believe, and lots of fun!”
Post # 15
I figured it out, and was officially told when I was around 10. My brother was only 5 though, so my mom entrusted me with “keeping Santa magical” for him, and I felt special for being part of the illusion.
I will definitely promote Santa, and find a way to let future children down gently. It surprises me to see all of these posts, in a way. It’s fine with me if people don’t want to do Santa for their kids too.
Post # 16
My daughter is ten and she was kind of bitter about it. I’m not sure why, though. I never made a big deal about Santa.