- 5 years ago
Today I got a random text from an unknown number asking “Is this ForeverBirds?” Turns out it was this guy I was talking to online back when Myspace was big- so this was more than 2 or 3 years ago. We started talking, just catching up, and I was careful to casually throw in that my Boyfriend or Best Friend had moved in early in the conversation just to head off any awkward advances.
Things are going great, right? Just lighthearted catching up. Nope- he just HAD to make things awkward. Randomly in the conversation he texts, “Well, I didn’t know you had a bf, kinda embarrassed on what I was gonna ask you.” And despite me trying to change the subject, he has to continue: “Yea… I promised you a long time ago I’d give you a kiss someday and I was just thinking about it today and kinda wanted to do it but I guess that’s not happening.”
WHAT?! Ok, first off, I really don’t remember this promise, but I’ll chalk it up to it being a long time ago and the fact that we never really did more than flirt over text and MySpace messenger. But after I gave this guy 2 different chances to change the subject, he kept going- and then procceded to tell me to let him know if I ever wanted to “reconsider.” I basically ended the conversation by telling him not to get his hopes up.
This just irked me. I’m in an obviously serious relationship and tried to give this guy every opportunity to back out of an awkward situation gracefully and he had to be- well, basically, a douche. There was nothing to be gained by any of that “I want to kiss you” BS because, if I’m living with my Boyfriend or Best Friend, obviously it’s a serious relationship and I’m not going to drop everything and go running back to a guy I never actually met in person. He couldn’t respect the fact I am in a relationship and just let it go. It kinda pissed me off.
Well, I guess it’s not as bad as another ex, who would text every 2-3 months and declare that he was in love with me (I’m friends with him on FB and noticed these texts usually came right after his status changed to “single” or had been there a long time. Dude, don’t play me, you just want to get laid). When I would tell him I was in a relationship or simply say I wasn’t interested, he’d try to guilt me by saying he had nothing to live for, he was just gonna die, etc. (He’s still alive, btw). Eventually he grew up and grew out of it (or maybe he finally gave up since I kinds fibbed and said I was engaged. Who knows? )
Is it just me, or is it like being in a relationship is a magnet for crazy exes?