Do guests pay for accommodation?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it unreasonable to expect guests to pay between $25-40 per night per person for accommodation?
    Yes, you should pay. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No, that's normal/fine : (153 votes)
    96 %
    It depends - explain : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think it’s fine.  For most weddings guests pay for their own hotels.  The prices you listed seem very reasonable, I’ve paid much more than that for wedding accommodations.

    Post # 4
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    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve never had our accomodations covered by any couple for any wedding we’ve attended. It’s always been assumed that the guest will cover it themselves. I think this may vary culturally but for the most part, guests do expect to pay for themselves. It’s up to them to decide if the cost of accomodations is worth flying out or not.

     

    Post # 5
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    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Yes always. I’ve spent so much money paying for accomodation for friends weddings. 

    However, I’m gifting my parents a room for after the wedding as part of our thank you to them. 

    Post # 6
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    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Snowden:  That’s ridiculous, of course you are not obligated to pay for their accomodations. I’ve only heard of maybe hosting a dinner the night everyone arrives for a destination wedding….but we sure aren’t! We’re in the same boat as you: the entire purpose of our destination wedding is a small guest list and lower costs.

    Post # 7
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Guests pay for themselves.  It is polite to invite out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner, since they are travelling.  Beyond that it is definitely not expected that you will pay for their lodging.

    Post # 9
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    1287 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m going to a wedding out of state next month and I have to pay to get there and pay for a hotel for the weekend. 

    Post # 10
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    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m payihng for the wedding party and my and finace’s parents, but no matter how much you do you will always have people who complain. For example one of my bridesmaids got upset that I wasn’t paying for a seperate room for her mother, who at the time I hadn’t even invited. You don’t need to pay for them at all!

    Post # 11
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    3112 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Snowden:  No couple has ever covered even a little part of my accomodations.

    Post # 12
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    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our guests are paying for their accomidations and most of them are traveling 12+ hours to get there. 

    Our guest list was cut by almost 1/2 because people couldn’t afford it. 

    Post # 13
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    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I WISH accomodations were that cheap per night at any wedding I’ve ever attended! Even the time I flew from the US to Italy to attend a wedding, I paid for my hotel room. I would be shocked (and thrilled, obviously) if it were paid for me, but I’d never expect it. 

    Post # 14
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    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @Snowden:  Not sure if etiquette is different in New Zealand but in the USA that is considered a destination wedding and it’s appropriate to expect guests to pay for their own accommodations.

    Post # 15
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    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Double post.

    Post # 16
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    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I voted for “it depends”…because most of our guests will fly from other countries (Brazil, Holland, Russia, France etc..) And we wil help with accomodations to some of them (who are not able to afford it, but we really want them to come over)..

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