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I honestly have to say.... I DONT!! When I go to a wedding I look at the OVER ALL decorations, plus the food and music.
What do you think?
I'm a total details person, and I'll notice everything down to the design on the silverware haha. And with all the trouble and stress I'm putting into the details of our day, they better notice it!
I never used to notice until I got engaged and now I'm still not noticing but I guess just looking for details as a bride to be.
I definitely notice little details, but probably not all of the ones the bride and groom fussed over the most haha
I pay more attention to weddings now that I'm engaged, but before, didn't notice anything except if the food was good or not!
I don't, which is why we're not bothering with a ton of tiny details at our reception.
So....For the most part the answer was NO, until you got engaged? What very small percentage of people at our wedding will be engaged?? lol
I always noticed the details, long before I was engage and still do now that I'm married. But I think if they are important to you and you love them then don't worry about whether or not your guests notice/appreciate them.
I don't care much about the details at a wedding. I like to get all sappy at the vows and have a good time dancing. If I saw tons and tons of little handcrafted details, I'd probably question the bride's sanity. And priorities. :P
Perhaps I'm critical, but even before I was engaged, I always notice the details about the wedding. The bride and groom attire, make up, hair, food, favor, flowers, etc.
I know in my wedding, I'll be having a few guests that would be as critical as I am or worse.
Another question: Will WE even remember the little details years later? I have asked several co-workers and family members this and they all said the same thing...NO!!
I try to notice all the details but I remember I got so frusterated at my wedding because I bought about 200-300 little white candles and hot glued teeny tiny brown ribbons to EACH of them. NO ONE noticed!!! I was so mad! haha. It just made me realize that no one will notice every detail about your wedding like you will. ;)
I notice the details, which why I worry that others will notice things about our wedding!
Exactly... Maybe a few might notice and even appreciate the small details at your wedding. But I THINK for the most part, people just dont notice a bow not being on the bubbles...lol
Nope. I just want to eat and dance. I couldn't care less what the table numbers look like.
@Zaria: Another question: Will WE even remember the little details years later?
I don't remember the little details, but I remember the general feel of the wedding, such as if it was a nice or elaborated wedding or was just a so so wedding.
I am a details-oriented person. But for me, the point of the details is to contribute to the overall environment and experience, not so that the guests notice everything. I want them to think 'wow, it was beautiful and fun' - not 'I loved the shade of green ribbon and crossword puzzle they had on the tables'.
@cutexkitty:I don't remember the little details, but I remember the general feel of the wedding, such as if it was a nice or elaborated wedding or was just a so so wedding.
I agree. And that's basically how I feel.
Not really. I notice some details but unless you are in the middle of planning a wedding I don't think guests notice it.
I notice the little details, but I'm a very detail-oriented person. However, I don't think guests remember those tiny details even a week after the wedding let alone a longer period of time. Also, if no one mentions a missing detail, no one but the person knowing it's missing notices.
I always notice details and especially even more so now that I have planned my own wedding. I notice things like what was in the OOT bags, the centerpieces, the escort cards, anything that is unique or different, the programs, etc
I notice every last detail - but I do a lot of design work and am a very visual person. I still remember the centerpieces from my friend's wedding 3 years ago. And I designed basically every aspect of my wedding, so yes, I will remember that. You don't forget 10 hours of vector design work for laser cutting, or the 2 days of spray painting for your centerpieces ;-). For brides that are less hands on with their decor, or who just had flowers or other standard things, I could see that not standing out as much.
I never used to notice anything at weddings, but then I got engaged! lol now I try to notice everything and make a mental note in my head To do or Not to do! haha!!
I think the options on the poll are a bit skewed. I notice the details (even before engaged) but not every last one.
I had several people compliment the continued theme throughout our wedding. Subtly, our invitations matched the menu cards and the water bottles and the OOT gift bags, etc.
HA! My ssiter and SIL and I had this conversation on Christmas Day, as both of their sons recently got engaged. They both attacked me at our last wedding and told me I outdid myself (as we had 2 weddings in under a year),so they noticed it all before the ceremony began.
Later on, my SIL commented about being to so many weddings over the years that the only ones she really remembers ANYthing about, are the ones where the music was great and we never left the dance floor. Forget the food, centerpieces and anything else...the number of people dancing what what she remembered (or how bad the DJ was and how bored we all were). lol
I notice every detail, but my FI is a different story- he doesn't remember anything from any of the weddings we have been to so far LOL!
I plan alot of large parties for my job so I notice alot of details, but I notice even more when they are not there. A blan wedding just has no personality. We were at a wedding a few months ago with no details. FH asked me while we were on our way home, "Our wedding isn't go to be that drab is it? I mean it was like they put no effort into it." He was spot on.
Before getting married and obsessing over all the details, I would notice a few details, but didn't pay that much attention; I would always notice whether the food was good or not. Now, I will definitely notice more details.
i have decided most people are dumb and won't realize how much effort every single thing takes in our weddings! therefore i want to focus on 4 or 5 really undeniably awesome things, such as favors centerpieces flowers, and of course the way i look! =) everything else i will do nice but generic... no sense in going crazy over EVERYTHING.
Perhaps people who are in the midst of planning their own wedding or who have recently planned their own wedding will look at the details, but I never really do. At all. Even when I was engaged, damned if I can remember what the flowers looked like at any wedding I went to, what the cake looked like, what the color scheme was, what the favors even were. What I DO remember is if the music was good and if I had fun. And I also remember if there was an element of the wedding that made things difficult for me as a guest (i.e., if I had to stand around hungry, if there was a long distance between ceremony and reception, if it was difficult/expensive to travel to the wedding site and required renting a car).
I skimped out on details at my wedding (no flowers, no centerpieces, everything simple), and I am infinitely happy that I did.
Remember you're using the Bee to ask this question! If you asked the general public I think the overwhelming consensus would be NO!
There is a huge difference between a over done and bland wedding. Find a few great ways to personalize your wedding, and make them big! We added a photo booth (for free, it was a DIY one), had a pre-ceremony cocktail hour and included 5 hours of dancing. These were all very easy, cheap decisions that made our wedding ours. As many of the girls said above, people remember having a great time. This past Christmas dinner my family talked about the drinks, food & dancing and laughed over the funny photo booth pictures. No one ever mentioned the program or tissue packets!
While details can be gorgeous and brides-to-be are obsessed with judging other's weddings - your guests will be there to celebrate your marriage. (And if they're there for the details, maybe you could reconsider having them there. Who wants to pay $100 a plate for someone who is going to sit and judge you the entire time?)
I keep worrying about this all the time. I am doing everything myself. This feeling of doom recently struck me as I was wrapping favor boxes and making sure that there was no seam to be seen. Will anyone notice? Probably not but I know I would notice. Then again I am a very detail oriented person. So I think some will notice most will not.
I've always loved weddings and I look at every last detail. I've been taking mental wedding notes since I was five.
@princessbelle: This is my 2nd wedding, and I did everything myself in my first, and I am also very detail oriented, so I totally understand where you're coming from. For the most part, most will not notice all the little the details. They look at the wedding as whole. Your guests are there to support you and your husband being joined together... and then to party. The only things that people talk about after a wedding will be the food, drinks, and if they had a good time. :-)
Probably not, but it's what I love obsessing over :)
I think your view of wedding details changes after you've planned one of your own!! :) Now I am very keen on the details but before we were engaged I was more of an "overall" girl.
I usually notice the centerpieces, what the WP is wearing, and the bouquets.. but my attention span usually stops there, unless there is something really neat/interesting, but let's face it, most of the weddings I have attended IRL have nothing on what you see online :P I am sure if I went to a wedding with some quirky signage or something I would notice that.
Even though I am more "aware" of the details now that I am planning, I still don't plan on having an overwhelming amount at our wedding/reception simply because I know they won't be noticed/appreciated/remembered etc.
Technically I would notice only because I plan events and now that I'm planning my own I can't help it. BUT typically its the overall feel and sentiment that wins me over combined with great food, music and drinks (in that order). And I do adore FLOWERS. However, I could care less about your matching fonts, colors, rhinestones etc because I'm not there for that. Now for mine I have a certain aesthetics that I'd like to achieve but I don't plan on going overboard.
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