(Closed) Do I ask her to be a bridesmaid?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I ask her to be a bridesmaid?
    Yes, she should be included! : (25 votes)
    76 %
    No, you should stick with your original plan : (6 votes)
    18 %
    Other? (please specify in comments) : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    You could always increase your wedding party by just one. They don’t have to be symmetrical. I would go this route if your FI doesn’t have an obvious choice for a groomsman. You have two girls who are special to you, it’s fine to include them both.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1573 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I say if you want her as a bridesmaid, go for it. The size of your bridal party doesn’t matter in comparison to the guest list. I assume she will be invited anyways, so having her in your bridal party isn’t an issue.

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I say include her, it seems like it would really mean a lot to her 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My FI is having about the same amounts of guests as you, and we’ve decided on one best man and two bridesmaids. I could easily have picked just one of the girls as the other isn’t really into weddings. However, as we’re quite different as persons, I thought it would be fun to get input from both of them! In my case they are both in Sweden, so I really miss having someone local to talk to – if you think you can expand your bridal party just a little, I would go for it.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @tallierand: It does. You want to be able to meet up, look at dresses (both yours and theirs), shop for the perfect shoes etc… Also, I’m very DIY – which means that I’ll have to do everything myself. It’s ok, as I’m creating the need for the stuff, but it would just be nice to have them over for a night or two! Have a nice dinner, giggle over some wine, putting together the ceremony programs… My FI is very supportive and my best friend, but sometimes I really miss not having a girl friend that I can share this with as well. So ya, my recommendation is to ask your local friend as well. Sure, she’s a few hours away – but still within reasonable distance (6 hour time difference between me and my BM… very sad).

    Post # 12
    Member
    1347 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I think the “helping out” part is not why you ask someone to be a bridesmaid. If she’s a friend, a good friend, no matter what she will help you out regardless of position in your wedding. As for if she would be hurt if she wasn’t asked, well, that is something you have to take into account. However, this is your wedding and if you only want one person up there, you only want one person up there.

     

    The point of a MOH or BM is to have your nearest and dearest up there supporting you. If you feel this friend of 3 years is one of your nearest and dearest. Supports you. And will help keep you from being all crazy, then she’s the girl to have stand by your side.

    Post # 15
    Member
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    You could always ask her to do a reading or something to include her in the wedding, if you didnt want to have her as a bm

     

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