Post # 1
Ok…I picked out my ring a while ago and I know he ordered the ring (setting) in November — saw an e-mail confirmation. He was ordering the center stone online and having it set in the setting. The setting is from Jared and I’m not sure where the center stone is from. I really thought there would be a proposal by now….but no such luck, I am getting pretty bummed about it.
Anyway, I was looking for a specific e-mail from my best friend so I typed in her name in the “search” column of g-mail and was confused because they were e-mails I never sent her. It turns out my SO was still auto-logged into his e-mail on my computer. I saw the first sentence of the e-mail which said “Problems with the ring. 12/12/12 is not going to happen…I’m so mad!” (This was well after 12/12/12) I immediately closed out the e-mail because I didn’t want to find out any plans he had for the proposal.
I know there have been a lot of issues with Jared and getting the center stone set (we had a feeling something like this might happen). We both don’t like Jared or their customer service but it is the only place which carries the setting I like (that we’ve found). I don’t know what the hold up could be??
Should I bring it up to him?? Not in a pressuring about the proposal sort of way just like a “hey…what the heck is going on” sort of way? I want to be in the loop too especially because we share the same account and it is 1/2 my money but I also don’t want to ruin any sort of surprise that might be going on.
So….do I say something and try to help figure out the situation whatever it may be OR let my SO and my best friend handle it?? I’m dying over here and want to go back and read that e-mail!!
Post # 3
No, if he wanted you to know about it, then he would have told you already.
Doesn’t matter what the hold up is, sounds like it’s one that is our of his control. So just wait!
Post # 4
I agree. You should not get involved. Let him handle it. Patiently wait until he figures it out and proposes.
Post # 5
@mrsbzzbee: +1. Agreed. Just let them sort it out. If he seems stressed, tend to his needs, and ask if you can be helpful.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I’m with these ladies. He’s already frustrated with this hold up. Just trust its coming and he’s taking care of it. I’m sure when he gets the ring he’ll propose pretty quickly.
I went through this with my ring. One of the issues my fiance had to be very honest about since I had to pick a second center stone :/. He was upset and wanted it done quickly. We then had a casting issue which he told me about, and another hold up that I am not sure what it was but he told me it had to be delayed again. Note my proposal wasnt a super big surprise which is what your bf seems to be trying to plan. We had already set a wedding date, and FI had sent me to buy a dress. So this was more of us waiting to formally announce than anything else but it was still frustrating. It was particularly frustrating for him more than me because I knew getting the ring was fine and dandy then he had to do his thing which I had no control over so really for me it was just a wash. I was just happy we’d agreed to get married and the whole ball was rolling it was the most peaceful portion of our engagement for me, for him the most frustrating.
Post # 7
Wow…I’m surprised NO ONE said to at least read the e-mail, lol! *Siiigh* I shall keep waiting and zip it for now.
Post # 8
Haha sorry I voted no too! I bet if you can keep it zipped a little longer it won’t be for long.
I’m excited for you!!!
Post # 9
he’s a big boy and can handle it. If he wanted your help he would have told you already.
Post # 10
@Lily_of_the_valley: Leave it alone. Let him do what he needs to do on his own. I know it’s hard but you’ve got to busy yourself with something else.