Post # 1
So we were told about a month and a half ago that FI’s family was throwing us a shower in January. We hadn’t expected one since we’re having a small wedding (20-30 people) but his mom said they wanted to throw one anyway. I’m not saying I’m going to be upset if we don’t have one, but I’m just confused on what to do. I need to schedule some things in January and early February (hair trial, possibly a reschedule of the engagement shoot/photographer meeting, meet the officiant, cake tasting, appointment to have my dress bustled, etc etc). Nobody has said anything about a shower and there have been no invitations or anything. So do we just plan things as if there is no shower or what? I don’t want to ask because, like I said, I don’t need one, I just want to know for the sake of not planning something the weekend they plan it.
Post # 3
I would just ask, that way you avoid any confusion. However, if you really don’t want one then you could always avoid the conversation altogether and pretend like it isn’t going to happen, until someone tells you differently. The things you’ve listed wouldn’t be very difficult to reschedule so I wouldn’t let it stress you out. Also, a lot of showers are on saturdays, so you could always just keep your saturdays open just in case. I still go back to my original statement though….it really does seem like the easiest route.
Post # 4
@tseay: The thing about everything we have to schedule is that it’s all out of town. And I work nights so by the time I wake up during the day, most things are closed plus I don’t have the time to drive an hour and a half each way to do things. I asked FI if he could have one of his parents ask so we don’t look like we’re expecting it.
Post # 5
I would just have FI ask his parents if there is anything in January or February going on (not meaning the shower but any family parties, birthdays, etc.) because youa re booking some appointments and want to make sure there is nothing going on that you need to be around for.