Do I attend/ Invite them?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
133 posts
Blushing bee

You definitely don’t have to invite them. Invites aren’t tit for tat. Personally, I’d decline their invitation without a second thought. B-list and a tiered reception? No thank you.

Post # 4
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Go if you want. You may have fun

 No need to reciprocate the invite.

Post # 5
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ktmlny:  If I  didn’t  see someone any more, I wouldn’t go to their wedding. We don’t keep in touch so why would I want to spend $$$ on an  outfit and a gift for someone who isn’t part of my life?

Post # 6
4163 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’ve twice been a B-list invite, but with a lovely note from the bride- “We had so many family invites we couldn’t invite all our friends, now we can that we have family regrets and we’d love you to share in our day, etcc.” Both times I accepted and had a wonderful time.

4 days before the RSVP date? Maybe not so much. And I agree with PPs- invites aren’t tit for tat.

Sounds like you want to skip-no harm with a regrets RSVP.

Post # 7
339 posts
Helper bee

Yea, no. I wouldnt accept or invite.

Post # 8
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ktmlny:  You definitely don’t have to invite them if you go to their wedding!  If you want to go, then go.

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