(Closed) Do I deserve a registry?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should I handle the registry?
    Keep it. 91 items for 100+ guests is fine. : (22 votes)
    56 %
    Don't register at all, it's tacky for your situation : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Scale back your registry : (6 votes)
    15 %
    Keep your registry, but only provide it if asked : (8 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Without reading the post, my first thought to your question was no.  No one “deserves” a registry at all…  That said, I don’t see a problem with having a registry as it’s a guide if people want to get something for you (not mandatory).  To be super tactful, I would cut your registry down to what you really want, perhaps half of what you currently have – and then add on to it if people buy things.  Also, if you are really worried about appearance of impropriety, don’t include the registry info anywhere.  People will hunt it down/ask if they want to know.

    Post # 4
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    we eloped and had a big party after and in hindsight i should have registered because i thought as we eloped we wouldnt get gifts. turns out every gift but one i gave away or donated as i didnt like the colours/style etc.   now knowing what i know, people are going to want to give you a gift, this way at least you will get things you like

    Post # 5
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I agree with everything kay01 said 🙂

    Post # 7
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I feel a PP was a bit harsh. Of course you deserve a registry, and what you have organized sounds very appropriate. Your guests should get you gifts, it’s the right thing to do, and you have provided them with a little “direction” 😉 I say, thumbs up.

    Post # 8
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would keep the registry, and keep an eye on it. At the moment you have fewer gifts than guests, which depending on what you registered for might mean you will run out. Personally I like buying multiple small things off of a registry rather than one large item. It completely depends on what you registered for though. And as a guest at a later reception I would prefer to purchase a gift off of your registry, and would still plan on buying one despite not being invited to your very small wedding ceremony.

    I assume the majority of guests will only be attending one of the two receptions right? I would feel like maybe you were gift grabby if I had to attend both, but if I read your post right they are for different halves of your new family.

    Post # 10
    6523 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You can certainly make a registry, although I think it would be most appropriate to keep it modest. I don’t know, I guess I feel like it does look a little gift grabby to have such a large registry and TWO parties.

    Post # 11
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Why doesn’t a bride “deserve” a registry?? I see absolutely nothing wrong with having a registry to help guests determine what gift they will get you.


    Post # 12
    1761 posts
    Buzzing bee

    That is totally fine! And it will prevent you from getting a lot of useless things. Already two people have gotten us things that were not on our registry, and we have no use for them. I can’t imagine if we had NO registry.

    Post # 13
    8218 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think 91 items is excessive at all, as long as there is a good range of items for every budget. Heck I’ve seen people post here with 1000+ item registries and many people didn’t even bat an eye…

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