Post # 1
Hear me out…I’m having a destination wedding a little less than a year from now. I’ve given personal notice to many of my guests (verbal save the date, if you will). I’m only wanting 40 guests total, with 20 of the guests being mine. A quarter of my guests are immediate relatives, a further quarter are participants (friendors, attendants, etc). We will be setting up the wedding website in the next 2-3 months. I will use the website to organize RSVPs. Essentially, everyone invited will have all the details long before the invitations ever go out (as they will have had to schedule vacay time, save for flights, etc.)
To me it seems a little pointless to purchase and distribute invites because (1) they won’t contain any information that is not explained in MUCH more detail on the website; (2) my guests are coming from abroad, does it really matter the address of the reception venue, for example? its not like they have to transport themselves there; (3) they will likely discard or forget to bring them along anway…pretty un-green if you ask me.
Other than the ritual of opening the mail and saying “awww, Overjoyed’s invites are so cute! Look!” can anybody help me see the point of my sending invitations?
Post # 3
I think that I would still do an invitation. Just to confirm that people are invited, the date, time, etc. And a way to get the website out.
ETA: I don’t think it needs to be anything really formal or expensive though.
Post # 4
I think that’s fine for 40 guest’s if your guests are fine with that because a lot of people still wait for that formal invitation even though you have already verbally invited them I had a mix up with my invitations but I had already verbally invited my guests but I was still getting calls saying I never received my invitation yet 🙂 but if you have a website just let your guests know that there will be no formal invitations due to the fact that’s its a small destination wedding and the information needed is provided on the website:) good luck!
Post # 5
Yes, just buy one box of 50 from Target, print and format the invitation as a destination wedding giving the website for guests who wish to travel to the wedding. I would also use the RSVP cards, just format them as well for the destination wedding.
Post # 6
to confirm that folks are invited. Ok. Not bad. I’ll stick that one in my cap. Thanks.
Post # 7
At least do something handwritten. People need a confirmation that yes, it is still happening at the time you said, and yes, they’re still invited. Plus, something with the exact time everything is giong to happen on it will help guests stay on time for everything.
Post # 8
My sister had a similar wedding and skipped the physical invites. Instead she send us emails detailing all the information we needed. It worked out wonderfully, but she’s not a very formal person.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I agree with the confirmation reason. I wouldn’t believe I was invited to the wedding if I never actually received a tangible invitation.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If being green is your hang-up, have you checked out paperless post for awesome online invitations?
Post # 11
An email, a FB event, a $0.25 post card, a carrier pigeon note, I do think SOMETHING to remind them is needed, but you don’t have to have a big fancy formal invite.
Post # 12
@chasesgirl: I second this. I don’t think anything fancy and/or formal is needed but definitely some sort of invite whether email, facebook or otherwise.
Post # 13
@EffieTrinket: +1 to this. Don’t go crazy or have it be expensive or anything, but I would definitely give them something to notify them that yes, it’s still happening and yes, they are still invited.
Post # 14
lol @ carrier pigeon! Thanks for your thoughts ladies, I definitely needed to hear some other opinions on the matter. Having been an event planner so long I was so married to “THE” way to do things and now that it’s my turn I actually find myself questioning things, lol. Go fig.
Also, I hadn’t thought of Target. I was going to graphic design them myself and print them out on 123prints or vistaprint or somewhere (that way, my LD boo can also just order however many he would like and distribute them to his own guests).
Interesting that PP said she wouldn’t believe she were really invited unless she received a tangible invite. I can’t actually recall whether I received a formal invite to ANY of the weddings I’ve attended in the past few years. I was close enough to the couple that we kept in touch throughout the planning and I was very aware of the time/date, etc. So thanks for that added perspective!
Post # 15
Would you ladies indulge me in another question, then? This is a destination wedding for September 2013. When is the proper time to send the invitations? I’d normally give at least 6 months notice to account for the expense and travel arrangements…but no one will be receiving the invite and go “OMG! Overjoyed is getting married? I had no clue!” lol.
Post # 16
If all your guests are fully aware that they’re invited, I’d just send out your formal invites the usual 6-8 weeks in advance.