(Closed) Do I even need to let them know there will be no alcohol?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you having a wedding website?  I might mention that you are having a dry wedding there and no alcohol will be permitted.

Post # 4
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If many of your guests know your history, they may be expecting a dry wedding.  I personally don’t think you need to give a disclaimer about having no alcohol.  It sounds like you have plenty of other things to entertain them rather than booze.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would never assume that there would be alcohol at a wedding, and it would NEVER occur to me to bring alcohol to a wedding.  I’m guessing maybe your guests are very young?  If you actually think someone will bring alcohol, then I would suggest being proactive and mentioning the ‘no alcohol’ rule on the website, and I would have someone call the people you are worried about and let them know.

Post # 6
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1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

But it sounds to me like some of FI’s buddies are well aware, but yet still disrespect the fact that you’re anti-alcohol.  They’re probably expecting a dry wedding, and I would imagine—coming prepared with flasks in their pockets.   I think it wouldn’t hurt to make sure all of your guests know.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

People who care about alcohol enough for it to affect their plans have a problem.   I would never make a decision on whether to go to a wedding based on the bar or lack thereof, and it is so rude to BYOB.  IF someone gets upset, that’s their problem.  Snaps to you for having the wedding you want!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No. There is no need to say anything and they will find out at the reception. Most people are able to have a good time without alcohol even if they do drink occasionally. If someone cannot, then that is their own issue to deal with on their own time. Can you possibly have security of some kind (even if you hire an off-duty policeman) that who confiscates the alcohol that does come in and mentions at that time that the venue is alcohol free? It’s not up to your attendants to police everyone when that will get in the way of them being able to enjoy themselves. Good luck!

Post # 8
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think you need to.

Have you seen anyone about this issue? If it is so severe that you cannot have it around you, I think you should.

Post # 9
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you should absolutely let your guests know.  This is your party, and if that is not your preference, there is nothing wrong with letting them know.  BUT, they NEED to know beforehand, otherwise you might run into more problems. 

So, I think putting something on the website like “This is a non-alcoholic event” is important, because it sounds like this is important to you.  You want to have agood time and not have to worry about being made sick, right? 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

 I don’t think any of your guests will be surprised because I assume they know you very well. I hope the counseling sessions go well for both you and your FI. Hopefully you two can come to happy agreement about alcohol because I think it is wonderful he has stepped up to the plate to make you comfortable. But, this will only last as long as he is able to continue the accomodation. At some point he may want to have a beer in the comfort of his own home or have his friends visit and watch a ball game or whatever their hobbies are. So at some point you will have to take control.

Post # 12
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it would be appropiate for you and FI to discuss the rules of your wedding with people you think are going to be a problem, but for everyone in general, it is not required f you to have alcohol so you dont need to state if you leave it out, and people shouldn’t BYOB because thats very tacky and disrecptfull of any wedding that doesnt CLEARLY state to do so!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with PPs that if the guests you’re inviting already know you, then they likely know you’re not going to having drinking at your wedding.  We are having a dry wedding, too.  I’m sober and FH has never drank in his life – so it makes no sense to us to serve booze.  We did not advise anyone in advance that the wedding is dry, as if they’re our guests, they already know we don’t drink and assuming we would offer booze at our wedding would be dumb.

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