Post # 1
they aren’t paying for our wedding? My parents are paying for most of our wedding, what they aren’t paying for WE are. I know we are going to get my parents something, but should I get FI’s parents a gift? I don’t want anyone to feel bad but than again they aren’t contributing to any of it. What to do?
Post # 3
I think it doesn’t hurt to get them something small as an acknowledgement… it is a special day for them no matter what the financial contribution. If you feel it isn’t fair I would just give your parents a gift separately when you’re alone vs. in front of them. I think that would avoid any issues.
Post # 4
What kind of gift are you thinking? Also, just because they aren’t there monetarily doesn’t mean they aren’t emotionally. And if you are going to make a “thing” out of the gift say, by giving it at the rehearsal then I would get something for both parents.
Post # 5
Same scenario for us and our small acknowledgement was a frame with our date engraved on it.
(Also, I have heard that parent gifts are also just “thank you for raising me so well” gifts).
In hindsight, I wish the in-laws had gotten nothing from us. I’m sure our frame is in the garbage right now. (Long story, different thread)
Post # 6
Same situation here. We are even paying for FIL’s tux. I am making my parents an album and probably get them a gift card to a nice restaurant too. But for the in-laws, they will get one of the “brag” books from the photographer and one 8 X 10 pic that also comes with our package. They probably won’t even want that.
Post # 7
on second thought, maybe I’ll keep the brag book for me and just print a few 4 x 6 pics in a cheapo pocket album for them. Like “just squeeze” stated above, long story….
Post # 9
Absolutely. You are thanking them for their son and for everything they have done to get him to that point, not just the wedding. 🙂
Post # 10
I think unless there is a specific reason NOT to give a gift, it is a nice gesture.
You can think of it as saying thank you to your FIL’s for raising a man as great as your FI!:)