(Closed) Do I have a right to be upset?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t mean to be rude but you don’t own the time leading up to your wedding.  Yes it was irresponsible of them to not use protection but that is their own mistake and they need to own up to it.

Post # 4
Member
520 posts
Busy bee

You can’t ask people to put their lives on hold, in my opinion.  Be happy for them, things will work out.  You don’t even know if she’s pregnant for sure.

Post # 5
Member
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ya i understand why you are upset. But there isn’t much you can do about it but be supportive to you friend.. just as they should be supportive of you. As much as the wedding is #1 to you and your FI it’s not #1 to everyone else-  which sucks but is true. Life keeps moving as you can see from this site that people have family members dies, babies being born etc You have to role with the punches and make the best of what ever is thrown at you. Try to be a positive, supportive friend and hopefully she will do the same and you can both celebrate what’s going on in each other’s lives together. 

Post # 6
Member
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

No…I don’t think you should be upset with them.  Although they were irresponsible that has nothing to do with you and there is nothing they can do to change that now.  I suggest being super supportive of your bridesmaid just as she has been of you.  My MOH just found out she is pregnant and will  be 6 1/2 months pregnant at my wedding.  I am thrilled for her.

Post # 8
Member
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

They’re in love and maybe expecting a baby?  I’d be happy for them instead of upset.  The main focus will still be on you and your wedding, don’t worry.

Post # 9
Member
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

No, you dont have a right to be upset. Just because she is a BM doesnt mean her life is on hold until your wedding. Just be happy for her if she is having a baby.

Post # 10
Member
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@Cece: I can understand your point there but unfortunately there is nothing you can do to control it.  My friend was in a wedding and due the day of the wedding.  Since it was her first, she was late and ended up being able to stand up in the wedding.  I’d try not to stress about it!  

Post # 13
Member
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Baby trumps wedding. Always. I don’t think you have the right to be upset at your friend being pregnant. I think you should be celebrating with her.

Post # 14
Member
40 posts
Newbee

Wow. I think you will have to get over it. You dont have the right to be upsest and the world doesnt revolve around your wedding. Sorry.

Post # 16
Member
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sorry hon, if she’s pregnant, they’re going to have more on their minds than your wedding. Just release it to the universe, there is nothing you can do about it. 

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