(Closed) Do I have invite my FSIL parents?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ItsDestiny:  Depends on how big your wedding is. But I think its a little excessive (as in I define them as distant vs close relatives) to invite your FI’s brother’s wifes’ parents.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

lol.. i am inviting– sister and brother inlaw- his dad, his sister and bro inlaw– why- because i grew up with these people calling them “aunt and uncle and grandpa.. i am also inviting another sister and brother inlaw’s mom and dad- why- because i grew up with them too-they are my “grandpa and grandma too…. we are even inviting cousin’s wifes parents.. two sets because they play important roles in fiances job…( we are also inviting his uncle and aunt’s sister and brother in law— this the one fiance and i have an issue with but his mom wont back down…( i havent met this uncle or aunt, yet alone the aunt sister– both were invited to the bridal shower and both were rude to not rsvp or answer the phone to even talk to me.. so we will see)

 

if you have room, then you can, if you dont have room, say you are sorry space is limited, hope to see them after the wedding with photos from the day…

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I thought about inviting my SIL’s parents.  I’ve met them numerous times and they’re lovely people.  But her father has recently been diagnosed with a terminal illness and I’m not sure if they would find the invitation thoughtful or an inconvenience.  We’ll see.

Post # 8
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

No, you don’t have to. Have you figured out how you’re dividing the guest list? We had a certain number alloted to each family, and allowed the family to figure out how to fill their numbers.

We’re inviting my FSIL in-laws, but they’ve stayed close to FMIL, and there was room on their family list for them.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Absolutely not. They’re not your family or a close friend. They don’t need to be invited just because they happen to be associated to you through marriage. Inviting my SIL’s parents to our wedding never even crossed our mind. They actually ended up being there anyway (just at the hotel, not our wedding) because they were watching our niece (adults only event) but had she not existed, they wouldn’t of been there. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You don’t “have” to invite anybody. If you’d rather they not be there, there’s no etiquette I’m aware of that dictates that FSIL’s parents get an invite.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

the only time i’ve even met my sister’s in-laws is at THEIR weddings… they aren’t my family, so i’m not inviting them to mine.

you don’t have to either. your fiance’s brother married that family… not your fiance. his brother’s in-laws are not also his… and not yours either.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would have never even thought of inviting my brothers wifes parents…. It doesn make any sense to me. Why not invite her grandparents and her brothers and sisters and Aunts and Uncles as well?! Unless you are super close with them or are having a 200+ wedding there is no need to invite your siter in laws parents

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It’s nice, and you don’t have to. Nor do I think that comment meant she necessarily think she’s invited. She could be anticipating seeing the photos.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Unless you’re having a huge wedding, 100% no you don’t.

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