Post # 1
Hey Hive! My fiancee and I are having a friendly argument about proper wedding party etiquette. I have two brothers, one whom my FI is somewhat close to and a brother that my FI is not close to, but I am close to. I told my FI that I would like to have both my brothers in the wedding, but he said that he doesnt feel close to my younger brother, and therefore doesnt feel that he should be in the wedding. I chose my FI sister to be in the wedding because I have no sisters and it is his only sister. Plus, I think my FMIL would be upset if I didnt have her (His sister is 15). I dont feel like it is right to have my older brother, my fiancee’s sister, my fiancee’s brother, but NOT have my other brother. What is the etiquette here?
Also, my brother is engaged, but I am not close to his fiancee at all. My fiancee thinks that I should ask her to be in the wedding because she may ask me to be in hers. Her and I are not close and only hang out or see each other during social functions, but I dont want to raise eyebrows on my wedding day. What do I do about these situations?? HELP!
Post # 3
I would DEFINATELY have your other brother in the wedding….especially since YOU are close to him…I am having all of my bros in the wedding party along with fiances brother AND his sister in ours. Most of our bridal party is family. I think it would be really rude and hurtful for you not to have your other brother. I wouldnt worry about having your bros fiancee in the wedding….if you are not close with her then you shouldnt have her in the wedding.
Post # 4
I think that the bridal party is for both members of the couple and I have heard of brothers being a groomsman even if he isn’t really close to the groom. I wouldn’t exclude your one brother. As for your brother’s fiance, I don’t think you need to have her in the bridal party just because you might be in her bridal party.
Post # 5
Could you have your brother as a bridesman?
My husband asked his sister to be his best woman, and she wasn’t comfortable with that, so she ended up being a bridesmaid on my side. We also had her fiance (then boyfriend) in my husband’s side, but they were friends since highschool.
I personally wouldn’t expect my SIL to ask me to be in her wedding party even though I had her. I think it’s different, since her primary relationship is with her brother, and I’m kind of a “by-product”, whereas when you have your husband’s sister she’s still the primary relationship with part of the couple.
Post # 6
I would have your brothers in the wedding…. I’d also have your brothers FI in the wedding too. She’s going to be a part of your life forever now, and why not start by having a bonding moment like your wedding. You could use it as an opportunity to become close!