Post # 1
I told my friends I don’t want strippers because I’m just not into it. They also mentioned Vegas, and I know none of us have a lot of money since we’re all still in school or just finished. I know they’re excited because I’m the first one in our group to get married, but I’m just a low-key person. We’re literally a 30 minute train ride from New York City, and I think we could just have a lot of fun there, doing karaoke, going to a bar, or eating out.
Would I be a buzzkill if I mentioned what I want to at least one of them, or should I just go along for the ride?
Post # 3
It’s your bachelorette party – it should be what you want! And should fit your personality. If Vegas or strippers aren’t your thing, then your friends should respect that. I would gently hint and if plans for these things progress, firmly tell them that you are not interested in those things.
Post # 4
It is better you mention your concerns then go and be miserable.
Post # 6
I just finished up a bachelorette party where the bride “strongly suggested” a multi-day event and was disappointed Vegas was not an option. I am sure those involved will appreciate pleasing you while saving some $$
Post # 7
i agree with PP…its your day. ive suggested lightly to my girls.. we are only 2 hrs philly so its best to just go there and spend the night.. i agree theres no need to spend tons of money !
Post # 8
the fact that you’re mentioning something that will be
2) more doable for your BM’s
you will be a goddess to them! I’ve suggested some things about my bachelorette party….but mainly because I want to do somehting a little crazy (white water rafting, or there’s a CN tower walk that looks fun)…
Post # 9
I would say something! My gay best friend Maid/Matron of Honor was trying to plan this BIG night out with male strippers and drag queens! I had to tell him to tone it down a bit, I’m not really a big party girl, I sort of wanted to skip the bachelorette thing all together, but he really want to do something. I agreed that we can do something, but I do not want something over the top. Chances are your girls feel like they’ve got to do something big, let them know you’re like to keep it low key and fun!
Post # 10
I made my preferences pretty clear, and my Maid/Matron of Honor was fine with that. I think she preferred to throw the kind of party I wanted to make sure I was happy. Like you, I didn’t want strippers and things of that nature. Plus, that made her job a little easier planning. 🙂
Post # 11
@littlegreenleaf: Yes, you totally have the right to ask. Bonus that it is something that will make you happy and thoughtfully accommodate your BMs.
Post # 12
I think it’s totally fine to to suggest something…and then let them do what they’re going to do. My fiance refused to get involved in his bachelor party planning because he wanted to be surprised. But there is no hard and fast rule!
Post # 13
Yeah, I love all of my bridesmaids. 3 out of 4 of them are all big partiers compared to me. As long as we do something even remotely fun, I’ll be happy. I have already naysayed the strippers. Now I’ve just gotta naysay the casinos lol.
Post # 14
I think you should tell them for sure!
I didn’t make it clear that I did NOT want strippers.. but one showed up on Saturdya much to my surprise! LOL
It was actually super hilarious and will be a great story to tell! The rest of the night was amazing!
Post # 15
I think it’s great to put in a request for something affordable and not too elaborate. Maybe frame it like “I appreciate you guys so much and I don’t want to make excessive demands of your time and money for the bachelorette. How ’bout a night in the city rather than the trip to Vegas?” Also, if they tend to be bigger partiers than you, I think it’s smart to set some ground rules about what you don’t want so that they don’t try to pressure you once the party is underway.
Post # 16
I think it’s totally fine. If you were the one demanding to go to Vegas and a night of strippers, they might be complaining about it! I’m sure they will be relieved that they can plan something a little more low key. Organizing bachelorette parties is like herding cats.