Post # 1
Last night at a very large family function, only a little over a month away from our wedding, my future father in law called me by my fiancé’s ex-girlfriend’s name (a girl who has not been in the picture for over 2 years) in front of everyone. Twice. (He yelled it even louder when I didn’t answer to the name the first time) Some people laughed, some people commented “awkward” and I felt mortified. I have been feeling completely miserable since and my fiancé says I’m overreacting and I’m even more upset that he thinks so. Am I overreacting?
Post # 3
I would be a little hurt but then drop it. He made a mistake and I’m sure he feels like an ass for it. Don’t waste your time being sad about it.
Post # 4
I think you’re overreacting just a wee bit. It’s not like your fiance called you by his ex’s name.
Post # 5
Eh, it’s awkward, but it’s easy to make a mistake like that. I would let it slide, but I don’t blame you for being a bit upset about it. Did your Future Father-In-Law apologize?
Once I called my sister’s long term boyfriend by her ex’s name and I was very embarassed and apologized immediately lol.
Post # 6
He did it on purpose? Or by mistake?
Post # 7
I would let it go. Sounds like he just got confused.
I’m a twin and people have been calling me the wrong name my whole life!
Post # 8
yes you have the right to be upset, that is awkward and I would be hurt too. But you have to drop it. and move forward. Your Fiance may be awkard about it to and just wants to move on. Your wedding is a month away!!!!!! look forward to it and try to get over it (yes, hard to do but you have to put it behind you) I hope he apologized!
Post # 9
Ive done that before. It sucks, I am sure he feel bads and I would let it drop. I call my husband by my brothers name once in a while. Things like that just happen.
Post # 10
@Bridal_Mouse: was he drunk? did he do it on purpose?
I think it’s a little weird he said the wrong name TWICE, and then shouted it the second time… I’d be pissed.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You are overreacting. It sucks, but it’s going to happen. It’s just part of the way our brains work.
Post # 12
That’s awkward, but try to let it go. Like a PP said, it’s not like your fiance called you the wrong name. People are creatures of habit! You said it’s only been about 2 years, was she around for many years before that? Don’t worry, it sounds like it was an honest mistake.
Post # 13
You’re probably just stressed from the wedding so things like this are probably magnified more so than usual. Let it go and focus. The wedding is almost here!
Post # 14
You’re right, I’m probably a stress ball right now– but even more reason why it is such a bad time to do something so thoughtless. I know it was an honest mistake. It’s just–ugh.
He didn’t really apologize. And I was very embarassed because about 20 people were just staring at me, waiting to see how I’d react.
Anyway, obviously I have no choice to move past it. But I can’t help but feel hurt.
Post # 15
Older folk are pretty good @ forgetting names. Heck… I confuse girlfriends’ names all the time. I agree that it was pretty awkward, but if his father likes you, who cares? His slip is no reason to be miserable & not enjoy the wedding planning process & time w/your Fiance & his family. It was obviously an “old person” moment. I would let it go. 🙂
Post # 16
@Bridal_Mouse: I can understand being embarrassed. I think you should look at the situation as an opportunity to show your gracious nature; if they looked at you to see how you’d react, and you didn’t react by yelling “HOW DARE YOU?” you passed the test. It’s hard being put on the spot, but at least it was an honest mistake.
If you can laugh about it now, people will take it as a sign of your good nature. Even if now you say, “I was embarrassed, but I understand how it could have happened, it was an honest mistake,” people will take it as a sign of your good nature. We can’t control what other people do, but our reactions to their actions are how the world will judge us.