Post # 1
My family says I should do the father/daughter, mother/son dances at the wedding, however I know when I go to a wedding, I find those dances extremely boring and I never pay attention to them. What do you think?
Post # 3
That’s definitely something you can skip if you’d like, though I think the dance is a lot sweeter and more emotional when you’re the one in it. But if you truly don’t want to do it, skip it.
Post # 4
I don’t think your guests will miss them, or even notice necessarily. Just be sure it wouldn’t devastate your parents to skip it.
Post # 5
You don’t HAVE to do anything. All of those ‘tradtions’ are optional. And if you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. Simply don’t talk about the dances to anyone, and on the day of if anyone goes “When are the dances?” just say you decided not to do them.
Post # 6
We’re skipping them, but it’s not important to our families. Since your family wants to include the dances, what about playing one song (or part of a song) and doing the father/daughter and mother/son at the same time? You can probably get it done in under 2 minutes.
Post # 7
I wish i even had the option! lol Except my family is the traditional people lol and since our wedding is so NOT traditional i told them i would keep this one thing for them so they don’t get on me about that too lol. 😀 I say if you dont want it DONT! lol
Post # 8
Even if they aren’t highlighted dances, will you be doing them as part of regular dances anyways? I went to one wedding where the bride and groom had their dance, and then danced with all the parents anyways, and people were commenting that it was nice they made the time.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
You don’t HAVE to- but how do your dad and FMIL feel about it? Would they miss it?
If you keep the songs short, which is recommended anyway, both should take maybe 7 minutes.
Post # 10
Skip if you’d like but I’d honestly ask your father and FMIL what they want to do. I know for my dad and FI’s mom, that is something they have really looked forward to doing one day and would be upset not to have that opportunity. I’d never take that away from my dad. I also am really looking forward to it though but even if I wasn’t, I’d still do it for him. FI isn’t keen on dancing period and mentioned not wanting to do it but he’s still going to because he knows his mom wants to.
Post # 11
No, you dont have to do anything! Hell, I don’t even think we’ll have dancing at all.
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: I second this – if it’s really important to your dad and FMIL, then I would go for it. I find them sweet, but even if some guests are bored, it’s only 3-4 minutes out of their life and it might be the world to the parents.
Post # 13
I’m also skipping them. We are doing a first dance for two minutes then cutting all the rest out. Unless one of our parents really object we don’t the need to do these things. I think it depends on the couples, some people are extra sentimental and it means a lot to them, other people like myself could care freaking less and think they are a waste of time.
I am ok about watching them, although sometimes I do admit I get annoyed/bored when people have multiple dances that take up a ton of time and that really I have no interest in watching. I think as long as people edit them it’s ok.
Post # 14
I doubt your guests will miss it.
We did it all together to shorten it a little bit, and I liked the quiet moment just to hang out with my dad.
I’d check if it’s important to your dad though. At DH’s sister’s wedding there was a venue issue that they ended up not being able to play any of their own music. They took off right after the reception and we went back to the hotel with DH’s parents. His dad played the song he’d picked out to dance with his daughter, and got a little misty that he didn’t get the chance. Absolutely broke my heart.
Post # 15
We did a combo father/daughter and mother/son dance. Neither of us really wanted to, but it was important to our parents.