Post # 1
I mean seriously girls? 7 months to go and I am only currently in contact, not for lack of trying, with ONE Bridesmaid or Best Man. And that’s because she’s FI’s sister who we see on a weekly basis! My three so called best friends have literally just stopped talking to me. I’ll email then with ideas of us all getting together, it’s either, I’m working, I already have plans, I can’t get off.. It’s always something! I have been trying so hard to keep them all involved with picking the dress(es) and have only been shopping with my 2 MOH’s and I group email them and only hear back from 1 maybe 2. And I’ve just given up! There is only 7 mo. til my wedding and I have to start getting everything lined up! I have finally picked out a group of dresses and I am sending them an email with said list and telling them to pick one and have it bought by 01/03/12 (the day the wedding planner steps in to take over).
Am I being a ‘zilla?
Post # 3
@crh1729: No Ma’am, you are not. I also have MIA bridesmaids and I think it is just a shame. Sure “no one cares about your wedding as much as you”, “you only get one day” *insert conventional wedding bee wisdom here*, but the fact of the matter is you chose these girls because you thought they would support you. And when they don’t it can be very hurtful and sad.
I empathize with you and want to reiterate that you are NOT being a bridezilla. ::HUGS::
P.S: I created a facebook group, invited them all into it, and use that as a means of communication since they are always on. Maybe that could work for you?
Post # 4
I’m really sorry. I have some MIA bridesmaids too… my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t even come to my shower because she wanted to “rest” that weekend, which really hurt because I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off when I was her Maid/Matron of Honor. As she’s the mother of 2 little girls, though, I understand that she’s got a hectic life and doesn’t have the same priorities I do! I kinda feel like I wish I hadn’t asked anyone, because I feel like not only are they not helping or even showing any interest, they all are needing me to take care of them/find free housing for them/make sure they’re entertained before the wedding (to which they’re all flying from different countries–sweet of them to do, but stressful for me since they’re seeing it as a reason to go on holiday somewhere cool instead of as a chance to support a friend).
I don’t think you’re being a ‘zilla by telling them what dress you’ve picked out for them to wear. If you were screaming at them about how they were being terrible friends by not waiting on you, that might be a different story, but I totally understand the position of having to be pro-active in telling them about plans they need to be aware of. There’s a big difference between “Pay attention to me!!!!” and “Here’s some info you’ll need to know…”
Post # 5
@strawberryavalanche: Thank you so super much! That made me feel a lot better! I might just do the FB group idea.
@UK Bride: That’s horrible your Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t come to your shower! I have a feeling one of mine won’t come either! But that’s for a later story I suppose.
Thank you ladies so much for your reassurance!
Post # 6
@crh1729: No, it doesn’t sound like you are at all! Just a curious question though, are you hanging out with them and *not* talking wedding sometimes, too? If they live close by to you at all, maybe have a girls night out, wedding planning not invited, or something like that. You probably aren’t talking wedding 24/7 when you’re around them, that just seems to be what I see quite a bit on the bee. (not trying to be snarky, just helpful!)
@strawberryavalanche: I did the same thing as you. It works out great for me, because my Maid/Matron of Honor is about 6 hrs away, and my 3 BMs are all in Florida. They even post in it, too 🙂