(Closed) Do I have to cover the cost of a women’s luncheon?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i think it would be odd to ask your girls to dish out for a bridesmaids luncheon.  these are definitely optional and if done, they are a gift to the girls from the bride

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think that’s totally fine.  I don’t think you need to pay.  I would just ask them if they wanted to get lunch/brunch that day.  Personally, if a bride asked me to do lunch or brunch the day before the wedding I would expect to pay my own way.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if you want to have a women’s luncheon, you should pay for it. Hey, you never know, maybe someone will offer to do it for you? 

Post # 6
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875 posts
Busy bee

A bridesmaid’s tea or luncheon is designed to get a chance to say thank you to your besties!  It can be simple or fancy, but it’s supposed to be your treat.  But it doesn’t sound like it’s in your plan to have a full out bridesmaid’s tea… you are just thinking that you want to plan your wedding weekend to include eating together that Friday.  (From my guess, you aren’t in a location that lends itself to a homemade lunch or that isn’t part of your skill set, so going out is on the agenda.)  I don’t think that you have to treat necessarily… esp if you are on a very limited budget… but don’t make it a invitation event if it’s just a … we’ll go out for lunch while running around together kind of thing… 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did a bridesmaid brunch  and paid for everything-drinks and all, in addition to ordering room service the day of while we got ready in the penthouse. (note-bring your own vodka and champagne!) My bridal party did an awesome job on my shower and b-party and spent a ton of money on dresses and accessories. So I think that if you are going to market it as a “bridesmaids brunch” or “women’s lunch” then yes, it would be nice if you pay.

If it isn’t an “offical” brunch then maybe just casually ask if anyone wants to go out to brunch with you and make it really informal so they get the hint.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think if you’re going to invite people to it as a “luncheon” then you need to pay for it (since it’s more like you’re hosting it).

But if you were going to do something more casual like just mention you’re going to be at certain restaurant at a certain time and whoever wants to come is welcome, then I’d say people would expect to pay for themselves.

Post # 9
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i completely agree with person above – camrie.  make it clear that it’s casual and just an open invitation so there’s no confusion and all should be fine.

Post # 10
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Since you are hosting it, then you cover the expenses. If you are not planning to pay for it yourself, you need to be very clear that it is a get-together where each guest pays their own way. No idea what the proper wording for that situation is.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree that its all in the wording. If you just want to have a get together at a restaurant and invite people to join you, then they should pay for themselves. If you decide to have a luncheon, you should pay for everything because you are hosting the party.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Anytime I go out to eat with anyone no matter what its for I plan on paying for my own unless I’m with FH 🙂

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