Do I have to get anything for the bridesmaids?

posted 3 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Do you HAVE to? No. But it is polite to thank them for spending time and money to share your wedding with you.

Post # 4
3217 posts
Sugar bee

@tiffanyscanlan:  Do you have to?  No.  But should you want to? Yes.

It doesn’t have to be expensive or crazy, but I do think it is polite to honour people who are honouring you by standing up in your wedding.

Post # 6
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

it is a nice gesture to do so.. it doesnt have to be expensive.. but something thoughtful would be lovely.. you coudl do a picture frame with the best picture moment of you two and write a thank you letter.. or you could buy some jewelry for them to use from Forever 21 or Marshal/TJ Maxx.. 

Post # 7
5160 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s customary.  

If you are paying for a lot of your BMs costs (dresses, hair and make up) then I think you can reasonably skip it.  If not…seems kind of cheap not to get them something to thank them for the time and expense they put into your wedding.  It doesn’t necessarily need to be huge, and it helps of course, if it’s accompanied by a heartfelt message about how much you apprecaite each of them.

Post # 8
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think most maids will be expecting it. If you can’t afford anything big maybe do something small and a heartfelt note or scrapbook or picture frame? 

Post # 9
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@tiffanyscanlan:  My answer is yes, but you can get really cute pairs of earrings on Etsy for under $10 and give them bags filled with candy tied up with pretty ribbons. Your bridesmaids love you, they will be happy with their favorite candies and a cute piece of handmade jewelry. You don’t have to buy them matching sweatshirts and expensive lotions or fancy gifts. Any of the brides here can private Message me for more ideas! 

Post # 10
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You don’t have to BUT if your bridesmaid have been a great help and are truly your family and bestest friends then why not. It doesn’t have to be uber expensive just gesture of love.

Post # 11
1861 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s considered thoughtful, yes. But small and thoughtful gifts, along with a heartfelt note, are totally acceptable. It’s not like you need to shell out for a Keurig for everyone. A framed photo – or a photo frame and promise to fill it with a photo of you guys at the wedding — would be totally fine.

Post # 12
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@tiffanyscanlan:  It is traditional in Australia to give your BM’s a small gift. I say small because it is also traditional for the bride to pay for their BM’s attire.

If they paid for their own attire I would up the amount spent significantly. ANd definately get them something they would individually like and not something for your wedding or matchy matchy.

Post # 13
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It would be nice for you to thank them with a gift of some sorts. Doesnt have to cost a lot, could even be really sweet personalized letter thanking them and some cute earings or lip gloss! Just something to show that you took time to think of them and are actually greatful!

I gave each of my bridesmaids for my photo themed wedding a polaroid camera, film and some casual jewlery. 

Post # 14
9652 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I def think its a nice gesture to gift your BMs with something! If you can’t afford much you could do a nice card and some cheap accessories. Maybe some bath abd body lotions….they always have sales and they have coupons that come out with 10.00 off 30.00 or more purchase. I think if I were in a wedding and the bride didn’t at least get me a card I’d be kinda upset. I always try to put myself in the other persons shoes so imagine if you were in a wedding and you weren’t given any sort of thank you.


Post # 15
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

all bm expect at least a thankyou note, or some kind of gift. try ebay, very nice inexpensive gift

Post # 16
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@tiffanyscanlan:  You don’t have to do anything, but being that they are spending money to be in your wedding, it would be a VERY nice gesture. There are a lot of inexpensive gifts to get. You don’t have to go overboard. 

Just a small token to say thanks and you appreciate them. 

FI got the GM cufflinks from Banana Republic but they were on sale for $10! He also got them Coach money clips that were $20/ea (again on sale)

For my BM I got them Coach wristlets at the outlets for $30-$40 ea and I got them slippers to change into if their feet start to hurt. (According to some of my family they said thats an expensive gift) but I am just giving you an idea of what you can get. 


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