- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Okay, so Darling Husband and I got married back in June. It was a big freaking deal because his mom was upset that we got married in MY hometown, even though traditionally weddings do take place in the bride’s hometown.
I am always nice to DH’s parents, but his mom has made our lives a living hell since we were first together; she’s so awful that his previous girlfriends refused to even come around her. She lied to the rest of his family while we were planning our wedding, telling them that we were getting married in my hometown because we hoped it would make it impossible for them to come and because we hated all people in the South (ironic, being we live in the South, but whatever…). Everyone found out this was a big lie and she cried and cried, begging for our forgiveness. She even made up stories saying that I had called his aunt names (which NEVER happened), and then told me his aunt is just crazy and imagined all that. Then the e-mails surfaced proving that she had said all of this about both his aunt and myself. ??? These are just a few of the things she’s done.
She is a liar and a manipulator who works her ways out of situations by throwing money at people. She offered to help us with our wedding and then told us she would have to think about it before paying for the food and cake like she had offered to do because the price was too steep for her (remember that this was for food AND cake and for 200 people). The total for our food and cake came to $1500, which is not much considering how much money she gives to people she doesn’t even know. She also then dropped thousands of dollars on partying and nice hotels while she was in town for our wedding.
Now that you have some background, here’s where we are: DH’s cousin is getting married in two weeks out of state. My Mother-In-Law found some deal online and booked us tickets to this wedding before she even knew if we could go. She lied (surprise surprise) and told me we would be flying out of the town where we live with no layovers (I was concerned because I have a lot of take-home work for my job and didn’t know if I could make such a big trip), but then she forwarded me the flight information and it shows that we are flying out of an airport that is 2 hours away and having a long layover.
She told me on the phone the other day that she has invested “oodles” of money into his cousin’s wedding because she just knows how beautiful it’s going to be. She is paying for the entire rehearsal dinner because his cousin wanted to have it at a ritzy steakhouse his parents couldn’t afford. She keeps talking about how his cousin’s fiancee is the most gorgeous girl she’s ever seen and she just knows this wedding is going to be so classy and ritzy.
She also told Darling Husband that she didn’t like how the photos turned out from our wedding, so she is going to take one at THEIR WEDDING to use in her Christmas card because she doesn’t want anyone to see how bad she looked at our wedding. She wore an ugly old dress and didn’t even fix her hair at our wedding; that’s how little it mattered to her.
She also just told Darling Husband that she is putting on the rehearsal dinner for his cousin, so as soon as we arrive in town, she’ll pick us up so we can help her decorate and get everything ready. However, she isn’t expecting DH’s slob of a brother, who lives at home and is 35, to help because “he doesn’t really like weddings” and “the game will be on!”
Personally, I feel like I don’t want to go because:
- She didn’t offer to lift a finger at our wedding; now she’s expecting my help at someone else’s!
- She made such a huge deal out of helping us with $1500 but is not having any qualms about dropped thousands on someone who isn’t even her son.
- She always puts me on the spot and says awkward things at events like this.
- I feel a total lack of respect from her, yet she wants my help for things like this to make herself look good.