Post # 1
I was invited to my sister in law’s bachelorette party but we are not close. My Fiance wants me to attend, but I am not really that social and am not looking forward to it. My Mother-In-Law is also going.
Would it be poor etiquette for me to not attend?
Post # 3
Hmmm. Well, can you attend for a short period of time? Are they doing dinner? You could do dinner and then leave.
Post # 4
It might turn out being fun. You can always bring a friend with you.
Post # 5
I would say that I think you should go, maybe it would help you get closer. But I totally skipped out on my FSIL’s bachelorette party – I had a nice excuse though since it was out of town.
Post # 6
I would honestly go for some portion. My Future Sister-In-Law will not attend my bacholorette party and I have to admit that I am hurt so I might be a little partial. Making a little bit of an effort can go a very long way.
Post # 7
I say go. If you are totally miserable, then you can politely excuse yourself. I would definitely make an appearance though.
Post # 8
I think you should go! Little things like this can go a long way in creating and preserving family unity…and that’s a good thing! I know it’s not really your thing, but you don’t have to stay out all night, just make an appearance, offer your best wishes, enjoy a little time with her, and she’ll really appreciate it. It’s a win!
Post # 9
What is your current relationship with your FSIL? I do not plan on attending my FSIL’s party in a couple of weeks due to the fact that we don’t have the best relationship. I don’t think she would like me to be there. Do you think she would like you to come?
Post # 10
I think you should go too! I know that I would be very appreciate of you making the effort to come f I were in her shoes.
Post # 11
I think she would like my presence, and I generally get along with her fine. I have been doing so many family events with FI’s family lately that I’m getting burned out. But this does help, thank you. It is more of a formal party. I have no idea what kind of gift to bring either. If any of you have any ideas let me know.
Post # 12
I think it would be in your best interest to go. It will only be a few hours of your life- but it may make the REST of your life with the in-laws a lot better.
Post # 13
You should go! Last year I failed to go to a bridal shower (5 hours away) of my fiance’s soon-to-be sister-in-law. I didn’t think they would care because they don’t even know me, but now that I’m in the process of planning my wedding I feel so wracked with guilt over it!
It’s not that I have bad manners…I just didn’t know.
Post # 14
I think you should probably make plans to attend for part of it.
Post # 15
I would suggest attending at least part of it. You said that you two are not close, but this would be a step towards becoming closer. It would also be a nice gesture to your fiance that you want to be part of his family/accept his family/etc. You never know, you might actually have a great time.
Post # 16
Tough ’em up!!! You should go, she is practically your family. How bad can a few hours be…